The criteria for normality are very relative. First of all, they depend on the external environment and its laws. However, there are a number of universal principles that can help you learn to behave normally.
Necessary
- - self-control;
- - introspection.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to analyze why you have a similar question at all. Taunts and remarks from others, a feeling of discomfort when being in an unfamiliar environment, uncontrollable behavior: there can be many alarming factors. In addition, you should be very aware that your concern about "normalcy" is in fact justified and not the result of excessive self-criticism.
Step 2
Record your behavior by asking the key question: "Are my actions leading to the desired result?" For example, if you are faced with the task of getting from point A to point B, but in the end you find yourself in a completely different place, you should doubt the adequacy of your behavior. Compliance with the result is one of the key criteria for normality.
Step 3
Once in a new, unfamiliar environment, follow its internal rules. However, keep in mind that most of them will be unspoken. How quickly you jump to conclusions and become part of the environment will catalyze your normalcy. A striking example: entering a new job. Dress code, internal etiquette, corporate communication rules, reporting algorithm, contacts with colleagues outside the service - it is from such moments that your normal behavior will develop.
Step 4
Draw a clear line between normality and originality (creativity). It is possible that you have your own ways of expressing yourself. It can be creative clothes, a shocking manner of communication, non-standard habits. However, all this should not cause obvious problems for others. For example, if the audience is amazed and shocked by your monologue at a recital, you will still remain within the limits of adequacy. But if at the same time you cause fear and a collective reluctance to communicate with you, it is advisable to reconsider your behavior.
Step 5
Don't let aggression take hold. Such behavior is justified only in exceptional cases, for example, with a real threat to life. In all other situations, uncontrolled outbursts of anger have nothing to do with normal behavior.
