Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone knows how to work with them correctly. Quite a number of people live with guilt all the time. They are used to blaming themselves for everything. This behavior prevents them from moving on in life.
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to love yourself. The habit of constantly blaming oneself for something, as a rule, arises from the fact that a person is too focused on his negative qualities. He thinks about them all the time. Try to make a list of your positive qualities, for example, a character trait or a skill. You can also indicate hobbies you enjoy doing. The list should be as detailed as possible, write everything, even insignificant in your opinion, but really good things. In the future, try to give all the items on this list a special role in your life. Focusing on them will help you think less about the things that make you feel guilty.
Step 2
Low self-esteem can be a reason to blame yourself. Pay attention to whether you are treating yourself like a child, whether you feel sorry for yourself. If so, learn to take responsibility and be responsible for your actions, but not blame yourself for everything that happens around you. If you continue to see your guilt in everything and cannot stop on your own, try contacting specialists. Remember that mistakes are an essential part of every human being. It makes no sense to constantly blame yourself, it will not give you anything. Learn from mistakes and move on, but don't allow yourself to be constantly plunged into guilt.
Step 3
Pay attention to whether your level of self-criticism is off-scale. This is one of the reasons for excessive guilt feelings. If you observe this behavior of yourself, try to focus only on the really important issues, while skipping all the small and insignificant flaws. Self-criticism is often a way of taking on blame unnecessarily. A person can do this so that others will justify him, saying that it is not his fault. Refocus your attention on the essence of mistakes, study the reasons for their occurrence, think how not to make them in the future, instead of constantly worrying about someone else's fault.
Step 4
Learn to forgive yourself for mistakes. It can be difficult for people to forgive someone around them. Forgiving yourself can be even more difficult. However, without forgiving yourself, it is impossible to part with guilt. The burden of responsibility will haunt you and constantly remind you that you have made a mistake. This will make you worry about your actions and prevent you from moving forward. If you are unable to forgive yourself, try starting with other people. When you truly forgive someone, you will feel a barrier disappearing between you, reminiscent of guilt. In the future, you will be able to apply this to yourself.
