Uncertainty, complexes, feelings of guilt are signs that a person does not love himself. This affects behavior, interferes with being relaxed and happy. Acceptance of oneself makes it possible to enjoy every day, to be free in behavior and thoughts.
A share of criticism to your level of development, appearance should be present in a person. High self-esteem is not healthy, it is important to be adequate, to really look at yourself, to understand good and bad qualities. And there is no need to constantly compare yourself with someone, there is only one reference point - you yourself. If you are better today than yesterday, then everything is fine, you are on the right course.
My faults are my pros
To love yourself, accept both your positive and negative sides. It is important to realize that each person has different qualities, there are no people only with good traits. But you can always look at the qualities of a person from different angles. Some disadvantages sometimes become very important advantages if they are correctly evaluated.
Do a simple exercise. Divide a sheet of paper into 2 pieces with a vertical strip. In the left column, write your "bad" qualities. They can be anything, but it is important to find as many of them as possible. Write down all the claims you can make to yourself. Take your time, you can even ask your loved ones, they will help. When the list is ready, write on the other side of the sheet when the qualities you previously remembered helped you in life. For example, "stubborn" on the right side, and on the left - "knows how to defend an opinion", "achieves its goals." The latter can be especially appreciated at work.
Look at your list and understand that everything that you have is only a plus. And accept it not as a negative, but as a feature, as something that makes you unique.
List of achievements
To love yourself, you need to find reasons for this. Usually a person only blames himself for what he did not have time, did not say, or could not do. But it's time to start thinking differently. This exercise should be done every night, and then you will feel love for yourself in a couple of weeks.
Write down the things you can be proud of. What good have you done in your life, how are you useful to your loved ones and society, what is beautiful in your person. Find the maximum number of merits. Think about what you can thank yourself for and complete the list. After that, add something else to the list every night. Even doing laundry for the family, cooking dinner is a reason to be proud of yourself, it is a reason to be grateful to yourself. Love yourself for doing so much, be glad that the world needs you.
Self-love is formed gradually. You need to look at yourself from the good side, and try not to notice the shortcomings. Be gentle with yourself, with your shortcomings, because everyone has them. Smile in the mirror instead of looking for extra pounds. Concentrate on the beautiful, and then everything will be much easier.
