Hate is one of the strongest emotions. But it does not benefit its owner. Dealing with hatred is difficult, but there are several effective ways.
Self-hypnosis
The highest stage of anger is hatred. When this feeling overwhelms a person from the inside, it becomes harder to perceive even the most ordinary things happening around. Therefore, as an auto-training, you need to teach yourself to think optimistically in any situation that has an annoying effect.
As soon as an unpleasant incident happens to you, you should not vent your anger on people around. Better to think of something good that will comfort you, or try to see the pluses in what happened. For example, if you did not have time to sign up for a driving course, you should not hate the instructor and the whole group. Think about what else you wanted to do, because now you have free time. In addition, during the period that you will not go to class, you can still save money for a car.
Optimism will not immediately become your dominant way of thinking. But over time, you can become a new person by getting used to this kind of thinking.
Another way of self-hypnosis can be the ability to control oneself. Tell yourself in your mind that you are calm. Psychologists advise to bring everything to the point of banality: to pronounce phrases like: "I am calm, I destroy hatred." It distracts attention from negativity and promotes concentration.
Breath
The downside to hate is calmness. Accordingly, the task of every person suffering from this destructive feeling will be the transition to an indifferent state.
Breathing exercises can be the key to success. To fight hatred effectively, you need to extinguish it at the very beginning. As soon as you feel a surge of negative emotions towards a particular object, breathe in. It should be deep and slow. Count to ten and repeat. Oxygen saturates your body, blood vessels expand, and overall health improves. Thus, you yourself will not notice how you become more restrained. The exercise should be done every time you lose control of negative emotions. The duration depends on the time required for complete calmness.
Psychologist's help
In European countries and America, psychologists and psychiatrists have long become commonplace. Every second American uses a psychoanalyst whenever possible. If you feel that your anger is really taking on destructive proportions, it is worth contacting a specialist. It will help you not only to speak out, but also to find a way to effectively combat hatred of the world around you individually.
Attitude towards people
Everyone has people who, for whatever reason, are annoying. But if you hate a person violently, wish him evil and try to do it, that becomes a problem. To avoid this, try to act unexpectedly for yourself. Compliment the hated person, smile at him sincerely, think about what good qualities he has. This way of dealing with hatred is effective because you are changing yourself by creating a conditioned reflex to the object of anger.
