In the modern world, we are often drawn pictures of the ideal person in books, movies, music. Often, even raising our own child, we subconsciously impose on him a goal: to become an ideal person. In this regard, one of the popular requests for a psychotherapist sounds like "I am nothing."
It is self-esteem that influences our actions, guides the choice of work, partner, friends. The success of the individual also depends on self-esteem. Often, it is a way of protection, it helps to stay within the comfort zone.
There are a number of techniques that anyone can use to build their own self-esteem on their own. Let's talk about the most popular ones.
1. Look for an excuse to praise and thank yourself. Think about your good deeds, smart words, right decisions. Celebrate your strengths every day. Even if not large-scale. Cleaning the apartment, taking classes with the child or walking the dog, mastering a new dessert - all this is a reason to praise yourself a little. Say to yourself: "I am a good person", "I have a lot of merits", "I am worthy of respect."
If such statements seem biased to you, ask loved ones to voice your main advantages and remind yourself of them every day. It may be easier for you to praise yourself if you can see with your own eyes that there is something to be proud of. Write down all the good things you did during the day. Have you moved your grandmother across the road? Did you feed the street animals? Write it down!
2. It is important to realize that there are no ideal people in the world. And you, unfortunately, are no exception. Forgive yourself for this. And start working on yourself. Write down your main flaws, think about ways to deal with them, and get started. By conquering your own weaknesses, you will feel better.
3. Find an activity to your liking that will distract you from negative thoughts. Remember your childhood hobbies, you may want to return to them. If a person enjoys what he is doing, then he has found himself. It will bring you tremendous self-satisfaction. Don't be afraid to try, don't be afraid to make mistakes. In the next error, you can find the truth.
4. A prerequisite for effective self-help is awareness of the root of the problem. Self-attitude is not an innate assessment of oneself. Self-attitude develops in the process of education and socialization. You can convince yourself for years that you are the most beautiful, but perhaps this is what gnaws at you? If you feel your own powerlessness, seek the help of a psychotherapist.
