The rupture of relations between spouses is a big disaster, although many contemporaries take this problem very lightly. If love was real, and the relationship broke up, then inevitably a strong and serious experience, grief, especially if one of the spouses is completely unprepared for this.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to determine the reason that led to such an unexpected outcome of events that ended in divorce, comprehend your relationship, their beginning and development.
Step 2
Speak out your problems with a pleasant person. True, not every interlocutor is suitable for helping one of the spouses in a divorce. Sometimes relatives, colleagues or friends say, "Forget him so and so." Or: "Stop thinking about him!" In fact, if such advice is accepted, then the holy feeling is vulgarized by gossip. One has only to take advantage of the advice of "compassionate" people, and you will immediately want to take revenge on your "half", a loved one once turns into an enemy.
Step 3
Your task is not to lose a sense of responsibility, not to panic and not to withdraw into yourself. From the experienced dramatic event, such as a divorce, it is necessary to extract a new life experience, do not become hardened in soul, do not reject a loved one, but try to understand him, since he is spiritually weak and could not resist the temptation. In this difficult situation, ask God for help, and often go to church. Communicate with your spiritual father. This will help you resolve the situation safely.
Step 4
How to explain the situation of parents' divorce to children? Little preschoolers are simple-minded and naive. Parents can easily deceive them. We can say that "dad or mom went on a business trip for a long time", "he works a lot." But the child emotionally feels the situation, and from stress and anxiety he can even get sick, be capricious, stutter. In primary school children, due to divorce, school performance may decrease. You can tell your child like this: “While we live separately, time will tell. We discussed this issue and decided that it would be better for us to be apart."
Step 5
If you are very nervous and worried about a divorce, then new sores will be added to the sores that are, and you will feel spiritual devastation. Therefore, you need to distract yourself, go on vacation to another place. See your friends, go out. Compensate for the feeling of uselessness with volunteer work, get some animal at home and gradually realize that you finally need yourself. And this last one is very important. Try to quickly fill the resulting emptiness with theater, search for new feelings, work.
Step 6
And later ask yourself “Who am I now?”, “What do I really want?”, And you will see how bright thoughts begin to break through the melancholy, and new desires appear, now you are a different person - truly free. Most importantly, don't despair. Feel the fullness of life, believe in yourself, feel health, prosper, be filled with creative energy, learn to be happy and appreciate life!
