Sometimes it is very difficult to part with loved ones. But when even unfamiliar people become so close and the break with them is perceived too painful, there is every reason to talk about autophobia - the fear of loneliness.
A vice such as the fear of loneliness negatively affects a person's life. The disease can be expressed in obsessive thoughts, anxious sleep, as well as skin irritations and other unpleasant external consequences. Psychologists recommend that at the first appearance of anxiety about recurring thoughts of loneliness, contact a specialist. However, you can cope with the obsessive feeling of loneliness on your own.
Introspection
Experts note that often the fear of being left alone is deeply rooted in childhood. Like the hero of the movie "Home Alone", the baby begins to fear that he may be kidnapped and forever separated from his parents. The roots of this fear remain deep within a person's perception of the world and are preserved when communicating with other people.
So, the fear of loneliness can appear during a break in a relationship and even in the process of family life. A person suffering from the fear of loneliness painfully and anxiously perceives even the slightest disagreement and is ready to make any sacrifices just to preserve, as it seems to him, a crumbling marriage.
And if the worries in family life can be attributed to natural anxiety for their own social status and the safety of the cell of society, then when the same concern is caused by a break in friendly relations, action should be taken. Fear of loneliness can lead to the fact that the opinion of even unfamiliar people becomes extremely important for those suffering from this ailment. Hence - unreasonable behavior, increased excitability and general anxiety.
Treatment is
You can independently cope with the fear of loneliness and bouts of longing for separation from loved ones by saturating everyday life with new and interesting events. A trip with friends to a coffee shop, a visit to the cinema or a simple walk in the evening park will allow you to qualitatively diversify the gray days.
When communicating with friends, it is important to strike a balance between “listening” and “telling”. This is the only way to achieve harmony in relationships, which allows you to correctly prioritize: "my friend is interesting, but I am also interesting."
New hobbies are also great at helping you deal with bad thoughts. You just need to decide which classes are the most interesting. Clay sculpting, watercolor painting, or even reading courses. Here it is important not to rush to refuse - first try everything, and then understand what is most interesting.
Oftentimes, activities that are pleasant and enjoyable have a good therapeutic effect. This is SPA, massage, aroma procedures, etc. Physical activity also allows you to unload the piggy bank of bad thoughts, but you should not overdo it either - otherwise the zeal to do what you love can quickly disappear.
The goal of finding new and enjoyable activities is to saturate the ordinary picture of life with new colors and emotions as much as possible. All this allows you to prove to yourself the value of your own life, which can be interesting and exciting even without unfamiliar friends, parting with whom is perceived as a personal tragedy.
If going back to an empty apartment every day becomes unbearable, you can get an animal. Contact with a pet allows you to fill the vacuum of unrealized affection and care.
What should be avoided is shifting attention from one object to another. The trick of this trap is that the hardships of breaking up with one person quickly disappear when a new friend appears. In this case, the disease does not go anywhere, but is only postponed in time.
And, perhaps, the most important thing is that it is important to gradually reduce dialogues with one's own “I” to the prohibition to dissolve in others. Self-worth should be higher. Gradually pondering this thought, saturating it with arguments, over time the understanding will come that other people simply enrich our life, but do not become its center.
