An excellent student's complex can be formed as a result of excessive requirements for a child during his studies. As a result of an overly critical attitude towards himself, a person believes that he should be the best in all areas of life, and when, for natural reasons, he does not succeed, the individual is overtaken by serious disappointment.
The essence of the excellent student's complex
If in childhood a child was taught that he should be the best in everything, receive only excellent marks in all subjects, be successful in general education, music, art, and sports school, a boy or girl may develop an excellent student's complex. Growing up, instead of making friends with themselves, such people continue to make excessive demands on themselves.
At first, a person strives to be ahead of everyone in order to please his parents, and then he tries to do everything perfectly out of habit. Unsurprisingly, setbacks or even minor blunders can cause severe frustration, stress and panic in an individual with an excellent student's complex, while the other person in his place would simply shrug and go on in life.
In the subconscious of the owner of the excellent student's syndrome, the idea that he needs to be constantly assessed - by others or himself - and that only by the results of such exams, he can count on love, recognition and respect or not. Such people are prone to doubts about their own righteousness, self-doubt, low self-esteem, reflection and self-reflection.
The bearers of the excellent student's complex do not even admit the thought that they are worthy of all the best in themselves.
The danger of the complex
This complex is dangerous because a person is never satisfied with himself. Having achieved one goal, he sets himself a new bar, higher than the previous one. He is constantly in tension, strives for something or torments himself for mistakes. It takes so much time and effort to make everything perfect that there is almost nothing left to just live.
Moreover, a person with excellent student syndrome can spread his habit of being overly critical not only to himself, but also to those around him. The spouse of such a person becomes a target for comments and demands, and children are even more unhappy.
Naturally, later they may develop the same complex.
But most of all, a person with this complex delivers the most torment to himself. He cannot enjoy the process, since he only cares about the result. Such people cannot enjoy the present moment and are rarely happy. The constant race for perfection, an unattainable ideal does not give them rest.
He is often tormented by fear of error or failure, because he does not recognize the right to any wrongdoing. The state of constant stress and the feeling of guilt that does not let go is inexorably affecting your health. Headaches and insomnia, eating disorders and neurosis can become constant companions of the bearer of the excellent student's complex.
