Many people associate the word responsibility with something heavy, oppressive and unpleasant. No wonder there are such word forms as "burden of responsibility", "burden of responsibility". Repulsive, isn't it? And if you look at it from the point of view of possibilities?
An illustrative example. Vasya made a decision (made a choice) to take out a loan and invest in a business that, according to his forecasts, will help him get rich quickly. If the idea succeeds, Vasya is happy and proud of his achievement, bragging about his intelligence and enterprise. And if not, everyone is to blame for this except him: a sudden crisis, a supplier, an accountant.. This is an escape from responsibility for one's choice. After all, we have to admit that he was screwed, and this is such a shame. That's how we live.
Choice and responsibility always go hand in hand. Why complain to your friends about your husband who beats, because you live with him. Why find fault with the freak boss, because you choose to work for him.
"I feel bad when they let me in, when it ends, who will help me get out of this unpleasant state?" Seeking a solution in the outside world is an initially losing idea. This attitude towards your life, unfortunately, aggravates your situation and will not bring any solution.
A person who is not responsible for what is happening in his life, for his choice, thinks something like this:
- "My thoughts torment me." How can thoughts torment you if you think them? You are torturing yourself. This is your choice.
- "I'm shaking." What is shaking you? Something or someone comes straight on schedule and shakes? Maybe you are shaking yourself with your own thoughts? This is your choice.
"He pissed me off and I got nervous." Nobody can make you angry if you don't want to. Getting nervous is your choice.
- "My condition does not allow me to live normally." Any state is organized by a person himself, it does not appear independently from nowhere. This is also your choice (organic pathologies are not taken into account).
Escape from responsibility is "seen" in the words of a person who shifts the blame for everything that happens to him to anyone and anything, but not to himself.
Choice. Think about this word. YOU CAN CHOOSE. Live the way you want, honestly living your ups and downs. A bad experience is also an experience, without knowing grief, how to understand what joy is?
And if now you are sitting in a puddle, then this is only your handiwork. Sitting in it is a choice, getting up and walking is also.
Everything you do and think about are all your own decisions. Everything that you don’t do and what you don’t think about is also your choice. By recognizing this, you are taking responsibility for your life. And then the picture appears in a different light: I myself sat in this puddle, which means that I myself can get out of it. Or I will decide to stay in it and continue to blame the whole world for being wet and cold.
