For the first time, they began to talk about Peter Pan syndrome in men in 1983. This condition is not a mental pathology, although at the moment there is debate about whether to include the syndrome in the number of borderline mental disorders. Peter Pan syndrome is accompanied by very striking symptoms. What are they?
Typically, Peter Pan syndrome is a condition that is common in men. However, in some cases, a similar deformation of personality and character can be observed in women.
Symptoms of Peter Pan Syndrome often appear already in childhood, and become more pronounced in adolescence. But experts insist that such a "diagnosis" cannot be made before a person turns 30.
This violation of character and social skills is not for nothing that bears the name of a fairy-tale character. It is based on the direct desire of a man not to grow up. Disclaimer, foolishness, and largely childish behavior are typical traits - signs - of Peter Pan Syndrome. However, a number of other points can be added to them, by which it is easy to identify a man - Peter Pan.
How does Peter Pan syndrome manifest in men?
- Young people with this syndrome tend to do well in school, graduate, and often do well in their careers. However, they tend to often change jobs, avoid conflicts and disputable situations with their superiors. They do not know how to get along with the work collective. As soon as a man - Peter Pan feels that friendships / friendships have been formed at work, he tries to get rid of them. In his view, friendship is always associated with responsibility, with the need to make decisions, and so on. And this is like torture for a man with Peter Pan Syndrome.
- Based on the information above, you can guess in advance that such individuals simply do not have friends. There are always a lot of people around men with a similar character disorder. Usually, young people with Peter Pan syndrome are very open, willing to make new acquaintances, energetic, sociable, and have a good sense of humor. They are easily carried away, feel comfortable even in an unfamiliar company. But all connections usually remain at the level of friendship and comradeship. Letting other people into your world, letting them close to you and maintaining friendly relations for a long time is something that a man - Peter Pan does not know how.
- Certain difficulties arise in young people with a similar syndrome in love relationships. Such men often have a macho look. They easily enter the girl's confidence, know how to seduce, make beautiful compliments, at first they are generous with gifts and are great at courting. However, as soon as an easy romantic relationship begins to turn into something serious, a man - Peter Pan, without hesitation, breaks such a love affair. They enjoy flirting, love for them is something like a game, but such men are not capable of a serious relationship. They are simply not ready for them. Marriage, family, children - all this requires an adult outlook on life, restricts freedom, forces one to be responsible, wise, serious. Peter Pan can't bear it. It's easier for him to escape than trying to build such a relationship.
- If, nevertheless, a young man with Peter Pan syndrome marries, then he becomes a "big child." His chosen one must fully take responsibility for family life, carry out all affairs and duties on their own. Even the order to pay the electricity bills and the apartment may not be fulfilled by the male Peter Pan. He is windy, he can easily forget about something like that, because what requires seriousness and responsibility simply does not exist in his world. As a rule, such men get along well with children, but do not raise them.
- Often, the main goal of a man with Peter Pan syndrome is constant entertainment, some sudden and crazy actions. The behavior from the outside looks like adolescent, with a tendency to maximize and take risks.
- The character of a man - Peter Pan is dominated by: emotionality, obsession, capriciousness, stubbornness, irascibility, a tendency to affective actions and rash actions. Such people complain a lot, require increased attention to themselves, may have high self-esteem and narcissistic traits. As a rule, a sign of Peter Pan syndrome in a man is increased sensitivity. At the same time, offenses can arise literally out of the blue, be literally inadequate.
- Infantilism is an indicator of Peter Pan syndrome.
- Peter Pan can react very harshly, rudely and aggressively to any comments and discontent in his address. If such a person is even gently reproached for behaving like a child, then you can face a stream of reprimands that will lead to a major quarrel.
- For a young person with Peter Pan Syndrome, emotional dullness can also be relevant. This personality trait does not manifest itself constantly, it can come to the fore from time to time, then when this will be beneficial to a man.
- Such young people tend to escape from reality. They can do this by going headlong into computer games or the Internet. They may be overly involved in some hobby, reading. Often, men with this syndrome actively use alcohol and drugs.
- Difficulty in social contact is another symptom of Peter Pan Syndrome.
- As a rule, a man - Peter Pan does not know how to feel time at all. He cannot plan anything in the future, very often he does not have time to complete all that is needed and what he wants to do. When you need to show rationality, such a man is simply lost and experiences a very strong fear of responsibility for making any decisions.
- A man with Peter Pan syndrome will never sacrifice his interests, desires, or anything else for the sake of someone or something.
