Often circumstances force a woman to raise her son without a father. There are important things to consider in your day-to-day communication in order for your son to grow up to be a man you will be proud of.
The scourge of time and the real misfortune of modern Russian society is single-parent families. The reasons are varied. Most often, many families break up for very serious reasons. The woman is left alone and forced to raise her son without a father.
Where do incomplete families come from?
The woman believes that she is better alone than with an angry husband. She herself can raise, teach and feed a child.
Sometimes this is true. An accomplished business woman who does not want to tolerate a weak man nearby can not only feed and educate. Many ladies are able to provide a very comfortable life for themselves and their child.
Or living together with an alcoholic and a parasite turns family life into hell. To save herself and her children from nightmare scenes, to protect loved ones, the woman decides to divorce.
Often a woman is abandoned against her will. She is left alone with a child in her arms, often without a livelihood.
How many human partings, so many reasons for the appearance of single-parent families. More and more mothers give birth to children "for themselves", deliberately avoiding marriage.
A lonely mom is not alone if she is a mom
Whatever the financial situation in an incomplete family, whatever tragedy it has experienced, the most important thing should be remembered: you are not alone. Next to you is a man. Even if he is two or four years old.
Under no circumstances should you pull down the boy in public, shout at him. In private, you will tell him what you think about his behavior. Only in private. Don't let yourself or anyone else humiliate him. Whether it is a teacher, headmaster or kindergarten teacher.
If, of course, you are faced with the task of raising a man, and not a downtrodden, insecure person with low self-esteem. Be able to politely, but firmly enough to make it clear that you have listened to the complaints and will take action, but only you have the right to punish the child if you deem it necessary.
There is no one besides you to protect the little man.
Born a man - be him, regardless of age
From a very young age, a boy should understand that he is an assistant, hope and support. But how can he feel strong and grown up if his mother rushes to put on socks and lace up his sneakers before he does it himself?
Let the son carry some of the purchases on the way from the store. Set aside in the bag what he can handle. It should be firmly settled in his head that it is not appropriate for a man to go light if a woman is carrying bags.
If your son has forgotten his gym uniform, a change of shoes, an album, do not remind him of it. Leave yourself to overcome the consequences of forgetfulness. Ask how he felt sitting on the bench when the children were running in physical education? Or was the reprimand from the school teacher pleasant to him? The next day he will be more collected.
It is important from the first days of school to accustom your son to independent training. Your life will become easier at times, and the boy will get used to being responsible for his mistakes and not allowing them.
Talk to your son, listen to him
A single mom has to work hard. The boy is on his own for most of the day. Deprived of a firm hand and a good fatherly example, he is ready to “cleave” to anyone who encouraged or praised him, an adult or a peer of dubious authority.
This is how immature teenagers fall into bad companies and ruin their lives. If you're lucky, you can negotiate with one of the non-working neighbors. Let the child be kept under close scrutiny. At the slightest sign of anxiety, take adequate measures. Ask how the day went, who he talked to, what he did.
And, most importantly, you cannot dismiss conversations with your child. Talk to him, listen, even if he talks to you about nuts and cars for an hour, and you are wildly tired. You can't lose emotional closeness, you can't lose trust.
This boy, your son, must grow up to be a real man, whom you will be proud of, and a lot depends on the wisdom of his mother.
