For a small child, the mother represents the whole world. He is ready to communicate with her around the clock, trust all his thoughts and desires. However, the baby gradually matures. And finding a common language with an adult daughter is sometimes much more difficult than with the girl she once was.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, accept that your daughter is an adult. She, like any other individual, has her own personal space, which should not be violated without permission. Do not come to visit her without a preliminary call, do not straighten the scarf when she asks not to do this, do not try by any means to force her to eat a couple more sandwiches and a plate of borscht. In general, treat her as you would any person you respect.
Step 2
The girl's life values may be different from yours, because their formation was influenced not only by the family, but also by the whole world around them. Your daughter may support a political party that you do not like, become an adherent of another religion, or become an atheist, and you will hardly be able to force her to change her mind. And if you don’t do this and accept your daughter as she is, you will significantly rise in her eyes.
Step 3
Chances are, you and your daughter have different hobbies. However, try to take a closer look at what she likes. Perhaps you will be carried away by the world of modern TV series. Or it turns out that popular scrapbooking is no less interesting to you than cross-stitching. If you have common hobbies, there will be topics for conversation.
Step 4
As a child, you could give your daughter advice on any occasion. Putting on a hat, taking off an overly revealing blouse, not communicating with that boy, doing ballet, not equestrian sports - you cared about your daughter's well-being, and she listened to you. Now you need to learn to give your recommendations only when your daughter asks you. What kind of sports she should do, what to wear and with whom to be friends, she already decides for herself.
Step 5
Tell your daughter directly that you would like to get along with her. Both sides have to work on the relationship. In addition, perhaps the girl has a couple of ideas, what kind of activity could unite you.
