A sociable person has an easier time in life than an individual who has difficulties with communication. If you want to be able to connect with others, there are a few tricks you need to know.
Be a good conversationalist
Make it a pleasure to talk to you. When talking, try not to deviate from the topic and first of all state the essence. Your habit of lengthy narratives can cause others to keep away from you, and here there can be no question of any effective communication.
Be open and as honest as possible. Don't lie or make false promises. Otherwise, your insincerity and insecurity will alienate others. Remember that a benevolent person has a better chance of winning over others. Therefore, it is important to compliment others and smile more often.
Find an approach
To find the key to another person, it is important to have a sincere interest in him. To do this, find in your friend something good, outstanding, worthy of attention and admiration.
Learn to listen. Oddly enough, this quality is useful to someone who wants to establish contact with someone, more than the talent to speak beautifully. Keep eye contact when speaking. But not too strong. Otherwise, the person may feel uncomfortable with your gaze. It is also not necessary to look to the side all the time, because it can offend the individual.
Use common ground to create sympathy for the person. If you listened to it well, then you could already determine what topic might become common for you. When you can't find a lead for a conversation right away, you can ask a few questions about the life of your interlocutor.
Be sensitive
Despite your proficiency in communication skills, the person may not make contact. You don't need to blame yourself. After all, people are not robots. They are simply not disposed to communicate. In this case, it is important not to impose your communication. If you see that the person is not keeping up the conversation and is reluctant to answer your questions, leave them alone.
Perhaps your tact will win the respect of your new acquaintance, and your next meeting will be more effective. Understand that some individuals need more time to look closely at a person and make some kind of contact with him.
Mirroring
The success of communication on a non-verbal level, that is, through posture, facial expressions and gestures, is also of great importance in the process of establishing contact. Learn to adapt to the person at the beginning of your acquaintance, and you will quickly find a common language with him.
Try to copy his pose a bit, just don't be too noticeable. You can turn in the same direction or position the toes of your boots in the same way as your interlocutor. Try to adjust to the individual's rate of speech. If you speak as fast or slow as he does, the other person will be comfortable communicating with you.
