Nearly all of us have encountered what might be called relationship problems. It could be misunderstanding, resentment, irritation or manipulation. At such moments, the question arises as to whether it is worth ending this relationship? How to figure out whether it is worth waiting with this decision, and when is the time to do it?
When can't you end a relationship?
I hasten to upset those who see the solution to all problems in ending the relationship or divorce, if they were formalized. This usually does not solve the difficulties and problems that have arisen in them.
The fact is that a loved one comes into our life not by chance, he is a deep reflection of us, our character traits, behavior patterns, our degree of perfection and development of the worldview. In other words, if a relationship arises, it means that a loved one brings to the surface much of what we ourselves may not want to face in ourselves. A misunderstanding arises, it seems that he or she is deliberately doing something that is very annoying, and now the desire to change a partner in life and find a better one is ready.
Only more often it happens that the same thing happens with the next relationship, the same difficulties and problems arise.
The first rule is that in order to improve relationships, you need to do serious internal work to understand and change yourself. If these efforts are not made, then the question of whether it is possible to end the relationship does not make sense. In the next relationship, you will inevitably meet with absolutely the same unresolved situations, sometimes even in a more difficult version. Fate doesn't like it when we refuse to learn and improve.
When can a relationship end?
Someone may reasonably argue, but if a loved one rolls down a slope and a destructive effect comes from him? Is it really necessary to sit and support him or her? If the husband, for example, drinks or takes drugs, humiliates his wife and children, scandals, etc.?
A counter question arises, why did such a person end up in your life? Why did you pull him in? This should be the first thing to think about. What made this situation happen? Lack of life experience, mistakes that were made in relationships, negative scenarios received from your own parental family, destructive attitudes imposed by society?
Even so, it is worthwhile to deeply analyze the reasons why a person with a destructive behavior has appeared in your life and make every possible effort to change the situation.
In the case when it is impossible to change the situation, all methods and methods have been exhausted and the other side takes a destructive position and is not ready or not capable of change, here you can safely end the relationship and begin to build your destiny, taking into account the acquired experience and life knowledge.
But what if people just become uninterested in each other?
It also happens that two former lovers simply become uninteresting with each other and their relationship ends as if by itself.
This usually happens if, initially, their relationship was not built on the basis on which a long-term relationship should be built. Perhaps it was a temporary interest or just an attraction, mistaken for strong feelings. Sometimes, even with initially deep feelings, a couple goes through some stage of the common path and loses what united them before. It so happens that it is impossible to glue something that does not glue. In this case, the relationship can end, as if by themselves. At the same time, there may be no quarrels or strong conflicts, just the relationship exhausts itself, as well as what initially served as a unifying moment.
Unfortunately, this also happens, but here you should be very careful and avoid one mistake typical of this situation. Sometimes, behind such words as “we have different paths”, “our relationship has exhausted itself”, there are banal grievances and unwillingness to work on changing and reviving relationships. It is important to think about it and not make a mistake, otherwise the situation may repeat itself.
Despite the fact that in modern society, breakup is often encouraged as a solution to interpersonal problems, this issue must be considered seriously and responsibly, and resorted to separation only when this decision is the only correct one.
