The ability to stand your ground is a more valuable thing than it might seem at first glance. It comes to someone by itself, in the process of growing up, and someone has to work hard to develop it. Below are a few tips for those looking to learn how to say no.
Instructions
Step 1
Most often, people who doubt their righteousness tend to agree with the opinions of others. Therefore, the first thing to do is to deal with shyness and insecurity and finally believe in yourself. For this, in principle, any psychological trainings aimed at increasing self-esteem, personal growth, etc. are suitable. There is also a wealth of literature on "practical psychology" and NLP.
Step 2
Conquer your fear. Sometimes this does not require a titanic work, just smile and say to yourself: "You can do it!"
Step 3
Sometimes, in order to give up something, it is not at all necessary to say “no”. Instead, you can use the language construction: "yes, but …", "I would love to, but …". If your interlocutor nevertheless continues to insist on his own, do not despair, you have at least two options to end the discussion: by changing the topic of the conversation or by ending the conversation. In the first case, switch your attention to something extraneous, not related to the essence of the question. For example, like this: "Oh, I remembered what I wanted to tell you!" or "Look, isn't it (insert your friend's name) there?" In the second case, answer the next persuasion: “Okay, I get it. I'll think about it. " Both work flawlessly.
Step 4
Show disagreement with your whole appearance. It is not worth making grimaces, but it is quite possible to cross your arms over your chest or rest them on your hips, or step back, make an absent-minded bored look. If that doesn't work, go on the offensive - take a step forward, closing the distance between you, or start gesticulating zealously. Both are unlikely to please your opponent.
Step 5
“Go in circles,” ask additional questions, express doubts without answering yes or no. He will lose patience and fall behind.
Step 6
And, for dessert, the easiest (albeit cowardly) way - you cannot refuse (refuse) - just leave under a plausible pretext (you need to answer a phone call, urgent business, they are waiting at work, etc.).
