In life, there are amazing people, at one glance at whom you want to straighten your back, raise your head and straighten your shoulders. They are not endowed with any special beauty or physical strength, but they have an inner core, unbending confidence and steadfastness. Any tests do not break them, but, on the contrary, make them stronger. What is the secret, and how to find your inner center?
Instructions
Step 1
The first step you need to take towards gaining inner integrity is to take full responsibility for your life. Do not look for the guilty and meet the blows of fate with your head held high. Everything that happens, in fact, is the work of your hands, it is just sometimes difficult to admit it. Nobody can force us to do something against our will. Each choice is an independent decision. Once you realize this, life will become much easier.
Step 2
Try to understand. Most often, when communicating with people, we only hear what they tell us, not paying attention to the meaning of the words spoken. However, no emotion is born from scratch. Fear of showing weakness is often hidden behind anger and sarcasm. And feigned neglect is nothing more than the fear of rejection. Try to hear the person and empathize. Strength consists in the ability to admit one's own and forgive someone else's weakness.
Step 3
Act according to your conscience. When we start to pretend and look for excuses for our actions, it only means that something is wrong. Very often you have to pay too much for a momentary success. Don't do bad things to people. By committing unsightly deeds, we thereby saw the branch on which we are sitting. As a rule, all committed actions come back to us like a boomerang.
Step 4
Be yourself and have nothing to regret. Sometimes, getting into a new team, a person tries to adapt, for the sake of society, breaks his foundations and principles. Of course, there is no need to show "stupid stubbornness" either. But if you, stepping over yourself, begin to do something or not to do something just because everyone is doing this, this is a completely different question. Be yourself calm and reasonable, and people with a similar worldview will be drawn to you, and those with whom you are not on the way will disappear by themselves.
Step 5
Most importantly, live in the present. We cannot change the past, the only reasonable tactic is to accept it as it is and not repeat past mistakes. The future has not yet arrived, so we can only influence today.
