As they say, after a fight, they don't wave their fists, and often after an unsuccessful conversation, we begin to pick up offensive words in response. But the stunning rudeness does not give us even a second to think. The tips below can help you respond to rudeness.
How to properly respond to rudeness
People who are insecure, too correct and cultured, who avoid various conflict situations, most often fall under the gun of rude and boorish people. And if you constantly experience the rudeness of colleagues or strangers, then the first thing worth working on is self-esteem and self-confidence.
Ruders and boors are waiting for your irritation or mutual rudeness in response. Don't give them that pleasure. Answer calmly and confidently, but do not give up or apologize, especially if you are confident that you are right. In any situation, a compromise can be found: let the person who brazenly breaks out of line, forgive the conductor who does not have change from a large bill, even if she screams and is rude.
Alienation is a good psychological trick you can use if you encounter rudeness at work. Tactfully interrupt the conversation by citing a lot of work or lack of competence in a matter.
An effective technique is to use his own weapon against the rude interlocutor. For example, imagine a dialogue like this:
or like this:
The enemy is disarmed and is definitely not expecting such a turn of events. The conflict is settled, and you are the winner in this verbal battle. Jokes have a similar effect. if you see that your opponent is ready to give out another rude pearl, make him laugh or ask a completely abstract question. This will defuse the situation.
When someone starts to be rude to you, think that it is not because of a good life that he does this, and just have pity on him, let him blow off steam, well, that you should just listen to his fiery speech and not take into account not a word of what was said. You are taller and stronger than that, relax.
Don't know what to say - just ignore it. Your silence should not be accompanied by an offended look. Just abstract, go about your business, remember that this is not serious and not about you at all! You are a successful person, you achieve whatever you want. Repeat this to yourself more often.
Effective responses to rudeness addressed to you
If you can't keep quiet, then you can use one of the following phrases:
