Psychoanalysis reveals attitudes that were acquired in childhood. For men, visiting a specialist is important if there is a feeling of misunderstanding, guilt, detachment and depression. They turn to a psychoanalyst to learn how to build a new world around themselves.
It is still believed in society that it is worth contacting a psychoanalyst only if there are serious problems, mental disorders. Because of this, a wrong attitude towards psychotherapy and its directions is formed. A psychoanalyst is a specialist, a professional who works with healthy people. It allows you to understand the deep reasons for motives, to understand your emotions and actions.
When should a man visit a psychoanalyst?
A feature of Russian upbringing is the desire to raise a real man who cannot, cannot show his emotions in full force. Who among the men in childhood did not hear: "You are a boy, do not cry"? The fear to caress a child once again, to give him tenderness and affection leads to a huge number of problems in the future.
The inability to express one's emotions, restraining all feelings becomes the cause of the development of psychosomatic pathologies. By the way, oncology, diabetes mellitus, duodenal ulcer and other serious diseases appear most often due to incorrect attitudes in childhood, constant feelings of guilt. The psychoanalyst allows you to identify the cause of the problem, understand it and work through it. You should come to his appointment if you have problems:
- with an erection;
- difficulties in communicating with women;
- personal or career growth;
- work.
A psychoanalyst will help you get out of depression, overcome fear of the future and realize the nature of betrayal, casual relationships on the side.
Have you noticed that many of the stronger sex tend to go in for extreme sports? Have you ever wondered if they refer to "suicidal behavior" like drunk driving? There is a need for thrills when there is a feeling of longing or depression, and the attitudes given in childhood do not allow making another decision. If you have a sudden craving for adventure, you should think about the reasons, if possible, visit a specialist.
When does a man decide to visit a psychoanalyst?
Unlike women, a man decides to visit a psychoanalyst when an event occurs in his life that has become the "last straw". Help centers are often approached by citizens who are bursting with raging emotions. The person gets the impression that the problems are intertwined into an unimaginably complex knot.
The second category of visitors is when a mother, wife, sister is forced to make an appointment. The man agrees, just to get away from the pressure from the outside. The first classes with such men are more difficult. They are not ready to part with their attitudes, overcome defenses, "pull out" real problems. Because it always hurts.
What are the challenges psychoanalysts face?
Young adolescents under the age of 25 are most often referred to because of difficult relationships with their parents. At this age, many are still dependent on the latter. This applies to the material, social and emotional aspects. Depending on the situation, a man takes one of two positions:
- In a hurry to grow up, put forward incorrect demands to family members.
- Confuses family roles, they themselves begin to act as parents in relation to fathers and mothers.
The psychoanalyst will help you to finish the process of separation from parents less painfully, teach you how to build close relationships with women.
Men between the ages of 26 and 64 come for help because of other problems. Often these are people who have already taken the role of professionals, have experience in creating their own family. Quite often, these are people who have had some traumatic experience of building intimate relationships who are disappointed in:
- love;
- friendship;
- family life.
The reason for the visit is the situation of divorce or the situation of choosing a new partner. Among the psychoanalyst's visitors, you can also find men who are in a state of crisis, have neuropsychiatric diseases (depression, neuroses).
At an older age, questions about future generations begin to worry. Many people want to live life to the fullest, develop, be productive and take part in raising their own children.
Solving problems yourself
A man should be the breadwinner and protector of the family, but he expects home comfort and family warmth. The paradox: the more successful, the less warmth he begins to give other people. He is beginning to be perceived as a person bringing home money. The result is stress. The young man begins to blame everyone around him, becomes withdrawn. If you do not solve the problem productively, there are other ways to output voltage:
- hard drinking;
- drugs;
- going to work with the head;
- connections on the side;
- divorce.
The same is faced by people who have not been able to find their favorite profession, to decide in life. In the psychoanalyst's office, you can talk about everything. The client returns to his childhood state, keeping his consciousness and experience. This makes it possible to analyze the unconscious in the waking state. This is the only way to get rid of childhood and traumatic experiences that affect every action and deed of a man. It becomes possible to understand what is really happening and why. During the discussion of hypotheses, the answer to the most important question arises: what to do with it.
