To be loved means to be needed by at least one person. Without the love of others, a person does not see the meaning in life. Nature has programmed us to give love to each other and receive back, but not everyone is able to understand themselves and understand the mechanism of attracting the love of others. A few guidelines and common sense will help you deal with the problem.
Instructions
Step 1
Love yourself. Attitude towards oneself should not reach narcissism, but it is necessary to accept yourself completely, with all the advantages and disadvantages. Your self-criticism often alienates others, and your obsession with your own problems turns any conversation into a discussion of your unhappy life. As a result, you are left completely alone.
Step 2
People love those who love them. Give love: give compliments and gifts, help. In the end, just be polite and courteous, anticipate the desires of others and help as much as you can. You don't have to go out of your way to please someone, but you don't need to: most likely, a friendly service will not require big sacrifices from you.
Step 3
Get help. Although your help has been selfless, you can count on reciprocal service. And while working together, you will have a casual conversation and get to know each other better. Be frank, but do not overdo it: you should not tell on the first day about your entire family and relatives up to the seventh generation.
Step 4
Use your natural data. With clothes, cosmetics and accessories, highlight those parts of your body that you are proud of: long legs, thin waist, voluminous breasts, unusual colored eyes, long hair, muscular arms, or something else. But keep in mind: your charms will be seen not only by those you are interested in, but also by those whose attention you absolutely do not need. In this case, do not succumb to provocations, but just smile or ignore the person.
Step 5
Remain yourself in any conditions. In any case, you will not be able to get love from everyone around you. However, when trying to please everyone, you may miss out on someone who can truly love you, with all your flaws and habits.
Step 6
To the same extent, avoid categorical judgments of others. You can tell the person what offended you in their behavior, but you don't need to memorize. Resentment is bad for you personally and for your relationship.
