Sometimes a minor event can upset and ruin more than one day. To prevent this from happening, you need to get rid of self-pity and look for positive aspects in any situation.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to think about how long you will be upset? Well, if an hour or two. Perhaps you will suffer a day, maybe a week. But sooner or later, this feeling will still leave you, go away, and be displaced by other events. So isn't it better to stop getting upset right away so as not to waste time on negative emotions.
Step 2
Take care of yourself and the people around you. The upset can affect your health and behavior, but loved ones are not to blame for the situation. Moreover, you should not take out your bad mood on them.
Step 3
Think positively. The unpleasant situation that caused your upset has already happened, and there is nothing you can do about it. But now you have become stronger, discovered something new in yourself, learned something about another person and, perhaps, protect yourself from communicating with him. This is not bad, on the contrary, it is a step forward.
Step 4
Remember that in most cases you can fix everything, and if not fix it, then correct it. If the situation is not related to the loss of loved ones, disability or an incurable disease, these are all little things. Look at those who live with daily pain, they will be ridiculous and incomprehensible to your frustration over trifles.
Step 5
Think that a little disorder invariably leads to a big one. Let's say you are nervous about a situation. In most cases, a person immediately gives himself indulgence in some forbidden issue, for example, deciding to seize grief with a bar of chocolate, smoke or buy an unnecessary trinket. And in a stressful situation, this seems like a reasonable way out, because you feel very sorry for yourself. Before you do this, think about how you will blame yourself for the extra calories, a cigarette or money spent if you were on a diet for 2 weeks before, had not smoked for a month, or put off for an upcoming vacation. Better to immediately pull yourself together and be proud of yourself.
Step 6
Convert your frustration into monetary value. It's good if your nervous tension will pass after 20 drops of valerian, at least it's not expensive. And what if you have to skip a work day or go to the doctor with arrhythmia, this is completely different money. Think about what you can spend them on.
