It happens that the initial goal of a relationship is enrichment. Such relationships do not always reach the wedding and have several classic implementation schemes. A marriage swindler is a specialist in his field. How to recognize it in time and not become a victim of fraud?
The classic scheme of the marriage swindler
All actions of a marriage swindler are calculated to the smallest detail and divided into several successive stages. Before marriage or starting a relationship, he presents himself as a wealthy person. Various stories are used about where and what he bought, what property he has, how much money he lent and to whom. All this is presented in such a manner that there is not the slightest doubt about his security, in addition to this, a feeling of honesty and decency is created. Courtship is very beautiful, here a man spends a certain amount on flowers, sweets and sometimes even restaurants.
Further, in the course of the fraud, a performance is played out in which he loses money, work, or is forced to urgently take a large loan, which will then inevitably disappear to no one knows where. Individual acts of this performance can be performed even before marriage. In some cases, getting married does not make sense, since you manage to get everything already at the stage of courtship. If it comes to the wedding, then the man does not bring any property to the new family, let alone money.
The stories about the problems are accompanied by beautiful promises that very soon all the money will be returned and the trap is slammed shut. The poor victim, blinded by feelings and pity on the one hand, and believing in imminent enrichment and a bright future, begins to do everything that is possible in this situation for a loved one. She gives her last savings, takes out loans. Sometimes it even comes down to selling real estate. The situation may be accompanied by fictitious problems with relatives, etc. There is no limit to fantasy and imagination. In one case, a man managed to get a stranger to live permanently with his “beloved” woman, saying that this was his relative, but in fact, he took money from him for living behind his back.
Usually, a marriage swindler takes advantage of the created position to the last, deriving considerable benefit from it, and then gracefully disappears.
What feelings does a marriage swindler exploit?
The main feeling our hero uses is a sincere desire to help him and pity. If this is accompanied by falling in love, then a good basis for manipulation soon appears. One has only to hint that he so needs a certain amount of money, as the processed victim herself does everything to get it. Sometimes the swindler works so subtly that he even allows himself to be persuaded to accept help.
As a rule, women who find themselves deprived of love for one reason or another fall into a situation of strong manipulation. They are the ones that can be made more easily dependent on the manifestation of approval if they do what the swindler wants. After all, otherwise they cannot receive the same portion of approval and attention in life. And these manifestations are used as a bargaining chip for all material wealth. If a woman is already surrounded by male attention, then the chance of falling into this trap is reduced.
Have you ever encountered situations in your life when you felt like someone's savior? Agree that this is a very sweet feeling that emphasizes personal importance. If she is not enough in life, this feeling can be easily manipulated, which is successfully demonstrated by numerous stories of love scams.
And in conclusion, for whom it is easy to give up future happiness and prosperity, when tempting promises are pouring in, like from a cornucopia? After all, a complete illusion is created that you need to be patient a little, make some effort and very soon life will become happy and rich.
How to recognize a love scam in time
First, it is necessary to analyze the situation for the presence of the signs of a scam, which were described earlier. If everything develops, as in the classic scheme with a description of the past financial well-being, its rapid collapse and the need for you to solve all these problems, you should pause and think about possible deception. Stop and find out real information about the person you met, his history, etc. Sometimes such a sober look is enough to get through the deceiver.
Secondly, realize what feelings the chosen one cultivates in you. If this is a desire to save him, pity, a desire to get his approval and love in exchange for some actions, the desire to have happiness in the future in exchange for a certain amount of money now - you should seriously analyze his motives and protect yourself in time.
And one more touch that will give out a love swindler. He will always rush you to solve his problems. Money will be needed urgently and unexpectedly, any other help - immediately. He needs to not give you time to think and analyze the situation. All other options for resolving his problems will inevitably be unacceptable.
