In the process of self-knowledge, a person forms an opinion about himself: his abilities and capabilities. A person determines his moral principles and psychological qualities, as well as his place in society. As a result, an adequate, underestimated or overestimated self-esteem develops, on the basis of which there is interaction and the adoption of responsible decisions in life.
Adequate self-esteem
When a person is in harmony with himself and the world around him, he develops the correct self-esteem. He strives to be objective towards himself, close people and acquaintances: he understands that each person has his own advantages and disadvantages, notices them, but does not focus on negative qualities.
A person accepts himself and others as he is and acts on the basis of available objective data. Such a person soberly evaluates his abilities and seeks to fully realize himself as a person. He is calm about failures, other people's opinions and does not expect help from others.
A person with adequate self-esteem relies on himself, is active and looks at life with optimism.
Low self-esteem
If a person has a low self-esteem, he behaves timidly and insecure. He made a decision for himself that in many ways he loses to others and is not able to change anything. As a result of the existing inferiority complex, there is a lack of high goals and achievements.
The person strives to be invisible, easily vulnerable and constantly asks for advice. He is dependent on someone else's opinion, lack of initiative and weak character.
Excessive insecurity and self-criticism arises as a result of improper upbringing, which implies overprotection or an overbearing attitude. As a result, a loser's behavior model is formed: in the minds the possibility of success is denied and a search for those responsible for their trials takes place.
People with low self-esteem are unable to realize their natural abilities.
Heightened self-esteem
People with high self-esteem idealize their self-image and create their own image of an impeccable person in their imagination. High self-esteem involves comparing a person's abilities with the achievements of others. At the same time, noticing other people's mistakes and shortcomings, they constantly collect evidence of their exclusivity.
Such people do not want to notice their mistakes, lack of competence and wrong behavior. They are convinced of their superiority, righteousness and behave self-confident, and sometimes defiant.
People with high self-esteem are ambitious and domineering, do not accept refusals and objections. Due to their perseverance and determination, they often achieve better results than their abilities allow them.
Overestimated self-esteem arises in people who were brought up as idols of the family: from childhood they were exalted above everyone, admired any insignificant achievements.
Self-confident people strive to involve everyone around them in the realization of their goals, they believe that everyone owes them something.
