It is difficult to decide on an important step and do something that you have never done before. Keeps the fear of the unknown, the fear that the choice will be wrong, that you will break your life or become the object of ridicule. Fear is a defense reaction of the body that protects a person from dangers, but at the same time it is an obstacle standing in the way of a dream. To overcome fears, there is a simple psychological technique that you can use from the comfort of your home.
A letter from the future
Take a piece of paper and write your name on top. Think about an important decision that you have to either make or reject. Think about how your life will change in the next 12 months if you still accept it. Think about all the advantages and disadvantages, calculate how much effort you will have to invest. Imagine in all details what your future life will look like: what kind of people will be there, how much money you will have, where you will live and what to do.
After you mentally draw a picture of your future, pick up a pencil and write a letter to yourself - a letter from the future. Tell us how you are doing there, what you like and what worries. Tell us what difficulties you faced and how you managed to overcome them. Describe how your life has changed and thank yourself for deciding to do this anyway. When you're done, fold the piece of paper and hide it away.
Another letter from the future
Now imagine that you made a different decision and your life took a different path. What will it be like 12 months later? Write yourself another letter - from a different future. How are you doing? Describe everything in detail, seal the letter and also put it away. When describing your life, talk about both good and bad, there is no point in hiding flaws or embellishing reality, because no one else will read this.
After a week or two, print both letters and re-read.
What thoughts do they evoke in you? Happy or sad? Are you proud of your future self? Which scenario do you like best? Now think, do you still feel fear of the unknown, or does the future no longer seem so frightening to you? Writing letters from the future is a very rewarding exercise. It allows you to face your fears, calculate the consequences of decisions, and see that the choices you face are actually not all that difficult.
