Doctors say that forgiving can be a beneficial skill for health. Unfortunately, not everyone knows how to do this. This is due to the fact that a person feels himself as a person who does not allow anyone to hurt himself. Therefore, more often people respond to an offense with an even greater offense. After all, in order to learn to forgive, you need to try on the skin of a person who repents, but cannot break through the wall of resentment and alienation in order to receive forgiveness. And it is necessary to forgive, especially those close to you.
Instructions
Step 1
Prepare yourself for the fact that you are unlikely to be able to change resentment to forgiveness on the fly. The first and at the same time the most difficult step to forgiveness is to give up focusing on your experiences and feelings. Simply put, think less about yourself.
Step 2
This can be done, for example, by trying to switch the course of your thoughts in a different direction. When resentment and anger take hold of you, just say stop to yourself and think of something nice. In a number of cases, attempts to imagine pleasant moments in life in which there was a person next to you who offended you are especially helpful. If it doesn't work out, say a tongue twister, a children's song, a counting rhyme or something like that to yourself. Every time you suppress your negative emotions, mentally congratulate yourself, in general, support your mood morally.
Step 3
Memories of times in which you yourself were the abuser also help to forgive a person. Remember how you felt then. Now you can imagine the current state of your repentant offender. Take a broader view of the situation. This will help you change your anger to mercy faster.
Step 4
Here are some more ways to help suppress negativity and cope with your resentment and resentment:
Try to "train" on people you don't know. If you were roughly cut on the road, deliberately short-circuited, or crawled ahead of you in line, breathe in slowly and as deeply as possible, try to consciously suppress feelings of anger and resentment in yourself;
Every morning, start with a mental attitude: "Nobody owes me anything, but I am indebted to the whole world for all the good things that have happened to me and will happen to me";
If you do not know how to forgive "permanently", try to forgive the person for at least one minute. The next day, forgive for two or three minutes. Increase the time gradually;
Forgive yourself. When you have merits and demerits, you will become more tolerant of others.
