A person often has to express his opinion on any issue, enter into discussions, discussing this or that problem, object and prove his case. In other words, argue with other people. Alas, not everyone knows how to behave politely and culturally during an argument. Very often it comes to exacerbation of the situation, rudeness, transition to personalities. As a result - a quarrel, a spoiled mood, a reputation as an impolite, unrestrained person.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, each participant in the dispute must firmly understand and remember: any person, even the smartest and most educated, can make a mistake. Therefore, do not consider your opinion the only correct one, not subject to discussion, do not impose it on others. Even if an issue is being discussed in which you are very well versed. And world-renowned professionals sometimes made mistakes.
Step 2
Remember: a well-mannered, polite person always convinces other people that he is right with arguments, not rudeness. Therefore, refrain from a derogatory reaction to your opponent's words like "What nonsense!" or "Bullshit!", even if his words were, to put it mildly, not the most reasonable. Listen carefully without interrupting, and then calmly and politely express your point of view. If you think that the interlocutor was wrong, clearly and clearly state what exactly he was wrong, where the weak link of his reasoning.
Step 3
Track your facial expressions, gestures. A well-mannered person, listening to his interlocutor, will not make contemptuous grimaces, frown as if from a toothache, and even just defiantly be distracted, showing with all his appearance that other people's words are an empty phrase for him. Yes, it is quite possible that your opponent is talking outright nonsense or self-confidently undertook to talk about what he is poorly versed in. It doesn't do him credit. But you must behave with dignity anyway.
Step 4
Even if the interlocutor annoys you, speak with him in a calm and polite tone, in no case do not stoop to stinging jokes, advice to return to school, etc. Of course, not a single self-respecting person will allow one to speak disparagingly about the racial, national or religious affiliation of an opponent. This is absolutely unacceptable.
Step 5
If you yourself see and feel that your opponent is firmly in his position, it is hardly worth continuing the argument. Why would you waste time and energy on a deliberately hopeless job? Try to end the conversation under some plausible pretext, for example, referring to being busy, an urgent matter. In extreme cases, you can always say, also politely and calmly: "Well, let everyone remain at their own opinion."
