Some people are so addicted to the process of lying that they turn into real liars. Sometimes it becomes very difficult to stop and start telling the truth. But when working on yourself, you can get out of the swamp of lies.
Lies for fear
Consider why in some situations you find it difficult to speak the truth. Perhaps you are afraid of responsibility for your own actions. In this case, your lies and omissions are designed to protect you from the consequences that entail mistakes and misconduct. There is nothing surprising here. Let's say you have not completed the assignment received from your immediate supervisor, and are afraid to seem like an unscrupulous, ineffective employee. Then, to his question about whether the project entrusted to you is ready, you answer that you are almost ready, which is not true.
In this case, to stop lying, you need to grow up and learn to take responsibility. Understand that lying is not an option. Think about the fact that the truth may still come out. Do you really want to be in constant fear of exposure and lower your own self-esteem with constant tricks and twists? Probably, it is better to overcome your own laziness and infantilism, to think before committing this or that act, then the need to often tell a lie will disappear by itself.
Embellishment of reality
Some people often lie because they want to appear better than they really are.
For example, a former classmate asks you what you've accomplished in your after-school life. You suddenly start thinking that you are living the life of a loser, and come up with some kind of victories in the field of your career and on your personal front.
You should be alerted that you do not want to tell the truth about yourself. Think about why you are ashamed of yourself. Perhaps the fact is that you really do not realize your own potential, and you realize that you deserve more. Then you need not lie about your achievements, but commit them. Set yourself specific goals and move towards achieving them.
Perhaps you just don't love yourself. Low self-esteem needs to be addressed. It is important to understand that ideal people do not exist, that it is useless to compare yourself with someone else. When you accept yourself as you are, then lying about your life will cease to be a habit.
Maybe you are lying only so that other members of society will consider you theirs. Think about why team approval is so important to you, since it forces you to lie. Maybe it's a matter of self-doubt again. Or there are simply not the right people next to you. Instead of telling lies, change your environment and be with those who are not so demanding and cynical.
Lying as a necessity
Sometimes you have to lie because it is accepted in society. Sometimes, in order to maintain friendship or not offend a friend, you need to tell a lie. Imagine that your friend, completely delighted with her new outfit, asks how you like her dress. Even if you don't like the new thing at all, and you see that it does not suit the girl at all, you can lie so as not to spoil the person's mood.
Or take another example. You found out that your friend's wife is cheating. If you say this, you will surely become the cause of their spat and enemy number one for your friend. However, if you remain silent, it will also be a kind of lie.
Therefore, sometimes you should not be completely honest with others in order to maintain social connections. Keep silent, evade the answer, speak briefly - this is enough for your conscience to be clear.
For the love of art
If you are one of those people who just love to fantasize, you may start having problems with loved ones and friends to whom you constantly lie. The path is not out of malice and without a definite intent, but only out of love for art, but this is also a lie.
Find another way to use your wild imagination. Use your imagination to write fairy tales, stories, or scripts. This will satisfy your composing need without harming anyone.
