On the offended, as they say, they carry water. Even if you are a thousand times right, you don’t need to carry a pound load of negative emotions. How to get rid of resentment and anger?
Instructions
Step 1
Try to talk to the ill-wisher and clarify the situation. As a last resort, put yourself in his shoes. Perhaps understanding the motives and intentions of the offender will smooth out your feelings and help you find an excuse.
Step 2
If all the dots above the i are placed, but this does not help, vent your indignation outward. Write a letter. Feel free to use even the most offensive words, but make sure no one reads it. Destroy it along with unpleasant feelings in any way you like.
Step 3
The third option is to find something good in another person's bad deed. Yes, this is possible in most cases (except for the most extreme). The advantage may be that you now know that it is better not to trust this friend and not to entrust important matters, that you, thanks to him, discovered your weaknesses and the like. So, you still have to say "thank you", and you pout your lips.
Step 4
If stubborn feelings are still in no hurry to leave you, try using auto-training. Before going to bed, retire and relax, devote 10-15 minutes to repeating phrases like: "I forgive Petya and accept the situation as it is." Try not to pronounce it automatically, but to put faith in what you say.
Step 5
Let's say it doesn't stick in words. Take out a few sheets of paper and pencils. Draw the first thing that comes to your mind. Express pain, anxiety, fear, and resentment on paper. Continue painting until you feel relieved.
How quickly you can get rid of the resentment depends on the severity of the "crime" committed and on your own efforts. Remember, as long as the vessel is filled with sorrow and anger, there is no room for love and joy in it.
