The ability to establish contact with the interlocutor helps in personal life and career. To master the art of communication, practice a few powerful techniques.
Instructions
Step 1
To establish contact with an interlocutor, you need to be a generally pleasant person. An individual who is untidy and smells unkempt will find it difficult to build an effective dialogue. Therefore, you need to pay attention to your appearance. Neat clothes, hair and shoes, attention to accessories and perfume will make you attractive in the eyes of others.
Step 2
To establish contact, it is important to somehow start a dialogue. Finding topics can be tricky at times. Not every stranger will enthusiastically pick up a discussion of a highly specialized topic. But it is easier to draw a person into an unobtrusive conversation. Talk about what's going on around you. If you meet on the territory of the interlocutor, compliment his office or home. It is advisable to notice interesting details in the interior. The person you are talking to will surely be pleased.
Step 3
Look for common ground between you and the person you are talking to. It can be a common hobby, the same field of activity, travel, animals. Avoid sensitive topics: money, politics, religion, health. Such conversation subjects can put an end to the conversation. The more in common you have with your interlocutor, the more sympathy he will feel for you.
Step 4
Be kind and open-minded. Try to feel genuine interest in the person you are communicating with. Find something extraordinary in it. Remember that you can learn something from almost everyone you know. The very knowledge of this fact should make you respect a person.
Step 5
Don't forget your sense of humor. A joke helps you relax and bond with the person. Defuse the tense atmosphere with a witty remark. Let your good-natured mood be conveyed to your interlocutor. This will make it easier for you to connect with him.
Step 6
Use non-verbal adjustments to make the person more likely to mistake you for theirs. Experienced people in communication can mirror the pose of the interlocutor so that he will not notice, but on a subconscious level they will be imbued with trust. Some people even adjust to the pace of breathing of the person they are talking to. You can, for a start, adopt the speed of the conversation, so that it is more comfortable to communicate with you.
Step 7
Don't forget to smile. It helps build bridges between people in communication and makes the atmosphere special. Let your smile be sincere and benevolent. Then your interlocutor will also respond to it.
