Sometimes it is very difficult to determine who is our friend and who is our enemy. We often mistake for loved ones those who are capable of betrayal. This happens because there are rules of decency, which for some develop into flattery. So it seems that if a person smiles, says nice things, then he is a friend. But it turns out that everything is not so simple. So how can you recognize that very true friend, whose words and actions are absolutely sincere?
Instructions
Step 1
If you have any trouble in your life, call or write to someone you consider your friend (you can even cheat and just come up with a small problem to see how the person reacts). A friend in need is a friend indeed. This folk wisdom is, of course, true, but only taking into account some errors. The point is that many people are prone to pity. Therefore, usually, when something bad happens, those may appear in your house who will lament: "Oh, what a poor thing you are …". Or something similar. This attitude is definitely not friendly. In such situations, the person who truly values you will listen first. Then he will try to give useful advice, maybe even help with a deed, if possible. His compassion will not make you miserable, but, on the contrary, will add strength - after all, you will understand that you are not alone.
Step 2
Try borrowing money from a friend. The ability to share material benefits indicates that you are not indifferent to your fate. After all, most people live according to the principle: friendship is friendship, and I will not give the earned money to anyone. Of course, this is not the main factor in the relationship, but a real friend will never give a sharp refusal. If there is no money now, then he will ask you to wait (until the salary, for example). This method is also good in the case when you are very successful at work and are provided for. The slightest rumor that the finances are over, and the career has gone downhill, will remove all flatterers. They will simply not be interested in you - they will easily find another object of admiration.
Step 3
Remember that a loved one will never spare time for you. He will gladly agree to meet, will find a "window" even in the tightest schedule. He will not look for excuses and reasons not to see each other, but, on the contrary, he himself will try to find a reason for such a pleasant event. Shopping, lunch in a cafe, a walk - everything will be accepted with a smile. And how sincere it is, you have to understand.
