When communicating with a shy and secretive person, you need to make additional efforts in the conversation to find out the information you need. Sometimes special steps are required in a conversation, performing a work assignment or achieving a professional goal. How do you get information in a conversation?
Instructions
Step 1
Prepare for a conversation with the person. Think about the goals of the conversation task for yourself. Determine what facts or information you want to know.
It is also important to think over your appearance and choose a place where the conversation will take place. It is desirable for the interviewer to have a benevolent attitude, a smile, and a pleasant appearance for the interlocutor. The setting should relieve tension from the person. Having found out his preferences in advance, turn on beautiful calm music, put your favorite drink on the table, arrange objects that are interesting for the interlocutor in the interior.
Step 2
Build trust and win over yourself. Call the other person by name, adopt open poses, and use friendly gestures. Make the person laugh with a light joke. Compliment the other person sincerely about their appearance, work, or social connections.
Step 3
Manage the flow of the conversation, but keep a goal in front of you, no matter what topic you touch on in the conversation. In any jokes, remember your tasks. If there is an assumption that the interlocutor will not give an answer to a direct question that interests you, ask indirect ones.
For an alternative, use simple, non-alarming topics about hobbies, worldly wisdom, work moments. Talk about what is interesting to the interlocutor. When showing emotion, it is also important not to get distracted or get too far from what needs to be learned.
Step 4
Look for a logical relationship. A simple example: if a woman cannot report her age, ask her about the year she graduated from the institute and compare it with the date of the conversation. When talking about abstract topics, use associations about your goals. Analyze the answer. Often, a person's behavior style has a stereotyped pattern that can be easily traced by drawing parallels. You can go further and, attracting associations, develop the direction of the conversation in the right direction.
Step 5
Test your hypothesis. Sometimes it is not enough, as psychologists say, to put "one point on the line", that is, to assume. Test your guess with a security question. In the case of age, you can ask, did the woman go to college immediately after leaving school, or did she work for some time?
Step 6
Convince. Your idea should find its way not only to the human mind, but also to his emotions. Encourage the person to do the right thing. It is easier to convince those who have a vivid imagination, an inner orientation towards others, and not towards themselves, low self-esteem. Direct the conversation in the desired direction, use arguments. Come up with a fallback for the conversation in case the person responds with denial. Have a clear idea of how to end the conversation.
