Many people experience tremendous discomfort due to the fear of making new acquaintances. Their social circle can be limited by old school friends, and acquaintance with the opposite sex is accompanied by tremendous excitement and fear of rejection. How can you overcome a problematic quality like shyness?
Forget about shyness once and for all
Shyness affects both women and men. This quality begins to manifest itself in childhood and usually remains with a person until the end of his life. If you do not take the necessary measures, then a person will have communication problems at all stages of life: home, work, family and friends.
If you are determined to firmly defeat shyness, then this should be your personal choice. Dig into yourself and find out the reasons for your behavior. As a rule, the fear of not liking, being a black sheep in the company leads to shyness. Often people close themselves off from people, and this, as a rule, does not lead to rapprochement. To overcome shyness, you need to make a list of rules and try to follow them throughout your life.
1. Don't compare yourself to others. Remember that everyone is unique in their own way, and so are you. Just because someone knows how to do interesting tricks, make good jokes, or organize people quickly, that doesn't mean you have to have all of these qualities. Find your virtues and love yourself for who you are.
2. Leave the failed communication experience in the past. Perhaps you did not find a common ground with someone, but this is not a reason to withdraw into yourself. Start life from scratch and leave all your failures in yesterday. Do not carry this baggage with you.
3. Communicate more. This is the main advice that will allow you to gain experience in communication and quickly and understand the mood of the interlocutor. Don't know what to say? Listen and ask questions. People tend to like talking about themselves more than listening. Therefore, if you listen carefully and take an active interest in the details of the story, then at the end of the conversation the person will have the impression of an interesting and entertaining conversation, even if it was conducted in the form of an interview or a monologue.
4. Choose a job that involves active communication. It may be just a hobby or an additional type of income. For example, you can become a consultant for a cosmetics company and distribute its products, conduct social surveys, or motivate people to take certain actions.
By following these rules, you will quickly overcome shyness and acquire many useful acquaintances.
