Have you ever had to refuse someone at least once in your life? Instead of a warm and gentle "yes" to say a cold and merciless "no"? If you had to, then you perfectly understand the difference between these words. But there are a lot of people who just don't know how to say no. Not able or not willing? It turns out - they do not want to! They do not want to suffer with a sense of guilt and awkwardness for their refusal, blush and make excuses. It's much easier to say yes. Although they are well aware that this can be followed by many problems and troubles …
Instructions
Step 1
So how do you learn to say no? This is a rather difficult, but quite realistic task. And you have to start with yourself. Precisely from yourself, since you in no way can change an old friend who for hours retells the story of another love drama over the phone, or colleagues who, using your resignation, shift the most thankless work onto your shoulders.
Step 2
It is all the more useless to bring up already grown-up children who, having thrown dogs, cats, grandchildren at you, leave for all the holidays to take a walk with friends. Of course, helping friends, family and friends is our sacred duty. And that's great! But who said that this should be done at the expense of oneself - at the expense of one's own health and free time?
Step 3
It is imperative to remember that you and only you are the master of your life. And no one, remember, no one can force you to do something against your will! Before you say the next "yes", ask yourself the question: "Is it really necessary?" Can a person do without your help? After all, there are no hopeless situations, and if they do, they are very rare. And a friend will find someone to tell about her personal life, and colleagues will cope with the work themselves, and the children will go on vacation with the whole family. So, there is no need to take on other people's worries, considering yourself "the last hope."
Step 4
So before it's too late (and it's never too late), let's learn to say a resolute "no." To get started, practice in front of a mirror. A strict facial expression should help you in this, your voice should be calm and decisive. Try it. Happened? Don't predict the reaction of others in advance, just don't think about it. It has long been proven that those who know how to refuse and respect themselves are more respected.
Step 5
Most importantly, don't try to make excuses. The one who is to blame is usually justified. If you find it very difficult, learn to refuse the little things first. "Sound" egoism has not prevented anyone yet. Remember that you don't owe anyone anything! Live your life. You have one. And may she be happy!
