Arrogant people are treated badly, because they pay little attention to the judgments of others, behave arrogantly and coldly, and often - arrogantly and with sarcasm. Psychologists say that this behavior often hides vulnerable and timid individuals who are afraid to seem funny, insecure and incompetent in some matters. In most cases, these are not bad people. They just need to learn to communicate in a different way.
Instructions
Step 1
If you are accused of being arrogant towards others, analyze your line of behavior in various situations, think about what might be unpleasant for them. Remember that the more arrogant you treat people, the more you push them away from you.
Step 2
Put yourself in the shoes of the people who have to communicate with you more often. Try to understand exactly how they feel when you interrupt them, “cut off” and demonstrate your superiority.
Step 3
Consider the reason for your arrogance. Are you afraid to make some mistake? Do you think you deserve better treatment? Do you think that other people are worse than you, because you studied, improved, worked at a time when many did not strive for the best? You should understand that all your merits and dignity depended in many ways on other people. For example, from your parents, from good school teachers, from friends, acquaintances, and finally, from books that were written by many smart authors.
Step 4
Do not compare yourself with others, because if you do this, then you come to the conclusion that someone in a particular situation - you or other people - is worse or better. In fact, there are no best or worst. All different. Try to learn to accept and love people with all their flaws, as they are. Find and learn to notice something good in every person.
Step 5
If there is an opportunity to praise a person for something good, do not miss it. After all, in this way you do something pleasant for him and improve his attitude towards you. If a person says or does something that you think is awkward, try to point it out to him in a gentle way. Look at a person in whom you cannot find anything good in any way as a “negative” teacher, thanks to whom you yourself can improve.
Step 6
Try to monitor your facial expression. It should not show signs of arrogance - disdainfully pursed lips, a grin with an ironic squint, etc. Instead, learn to smile genuinely at people. Do this in front of the mirror, remembering some pleasant moments in your life. Smile at your friends, work colleagues, and casual travel companions. Of course, this smile should be light, kind, welcoming and not be regarded as a grin.
Step 7
When you communicate with people, try not to impose your opinion on them, even if you see that they are wrong. Listen to their point of view and try to reasonably explain to them that everything can be the way they think, but another solution is possible.
Step 8
Learn to forgive people's mistakes. It's not easy, but necessary if you don't want to look arrogant. In the event that you undeservedly offended a person, be sure to apologize, but do it from a pure heart.
Step 9
Don't be afraid to admit that you don't know something. It is simply impossible to know everything. Find professionals who can help you, do not hesitate to ask competent people for advice.
Step 10
Be philosophical about life. In every person and in every circumstance, you can find something to learn, learn something new and enrich your perception of the world.
