Omitting boring definitions and religious disputes, let us dwell on the fact that sin is based on a wrong worldview, which is reinforced by hundreds of different habits. It so happens that you realize and you want to change, but you cannot. How many times have I promised myself, but you continue to “sin”. Why? And the habits remained. So further we will focus on the fight against destructive habits, which is more in line with the format of a short note. For a deep study of the topic, there are sources, interest in which has not been lost over the centuries.
Instructions
Step 1
Take an inventory of life values, and in accordance with them and habits. Most of them have once benefited you or those from whom you adopted them. But this does not mean that you need them to this day. Choose the destructive habits that you want to get rid of. For example, irritability, fuss, dissatisfaction with oneself, increased criticism of oneself and others, laziness, thoughtless waste of money, overeating, addiction to alcohol, etc.
Step 2
Take one of the habits chosen in the previous step and analyze what constructive grain it contains, what problem it solves. For example, irritability is the protection of one's own boundaries, an attempt to influence others. Laziness is saving resources. Dissatisfaction with oneself is the motivation for change. Spending and overeating - looking for positive emotions, raising your mood, etc.
Step 3
Ask yourself two questions. The first one: is the task being performed really so important, is it not a lower priority than another, and whether the negative effect of your "bad" habit is connected with this. For example, irritability helps you defend your rights, but it destroys the warmth of communication, lowers self-esteem, and spoils your mood. The game is hardly worth the candle. Shouldn't you look for other, better methods of solving the problem? For example, calmly explain to your opponent what you are not happy with in his behavior. This is actually the second question: is your habit the most adequate and constructive solution to the problem and what can replace it.
Step 4
Mentally recall situations in which the behavior you want to change occurs. Come up with an alternative scenario for the development of events. Repeat it several times.
Step 5
When a situation arises in which you previously acted in an old habit, choose a new, constructive way. Try to be attentive to your reactions and remember that you are about to change. Don't beat yourself up for your mistakes, but gradually move towards implementing new and effective behaviors.
