Each blacksmith of his own happiness - this phrase has not lost its relevance in our time. Why do some people feel deeply unhappy? Psychologists trying to understand this problem say that the lack of happiness is caused by wrong thinking and some habits of the people themselves.
In no case should you complain about life, say that life is bad and boring, this is the shortest way to make yourself unhappy. You should never compare yourself with the most successful, wealthy, healthy, intelligent people, self-digging will only aggravate the situation.
To become a happy person, you do not need to look at other people, but to reconsider your own attitude to the situation.
For example, my family life is not going well.
Ask yourself, what have you done to be happily married?
Why am I not rich yet?
Have you asked for a new position, started to work more, somehow distinguished yourself in production?
No one will ever solve your problems until we ourselves begin to act and move in the right direction.
There are problems and worries in every person's life. Certain experiences due to conflicts with loved ones or colleagues, worry about children and relationships with a partner, various stressful situations can simply drive you into depression.
In order not to make oneself unhappy, one cannot silently carry grievances in oneself and accumulate all the negativity, constantly ponder the situation that has happened, suffer, and so on. It is difficult to break out of this circle of bad thoughts, but it is still possible, instead of suffering and depression, you need to come up with a worthy and adequate solution. For example, your child is a notorious poor student. You can worry about this as much as you like and scold a negligent student, or you can hire a tutor and tighten him up to a good one. Don't have money for a tutor? No one is to blame, look for a decent job.
Usually this behavior is typical for the fairer sex. Some of them think that the age is not the same, and the figure has deteriorated, and wrinkles have appeared, and so on, carrying such thoughts, they seem to subconsciously refuse any relationship and quite possibly repel potential partners.
Of course, love is not always mutual, and in some cases it can cause suffering and pain. The experience of unsuccessful relationships leads some people to avoid intimacy in the future and simply doom themselves to be unhappy.
It is not easy to be happy, it is constant work on oneself, but, again, no one will think for us, so everything is in our hands.
