Many people struggle with their shyness. But not everyone succeeds.
Often times, shyness deprives us of the opportunity to realize ourselves in life, express our opinion at the right time, or simply get to know the opposite sex. As a rule, all our dreams and desires fade into the background, and then they are completely forgotten.
But it is not all that bad. Shyness can and should be fought. Some people turn to specialists to help them identify the problem and find a solution. However, not everyone has such an opportunity, and many are ashamed to come to a stranger and open their souls to him. Therefore, we have to somehow look for ways to solve this complex problem ourselves.
First you need to identify what caused your shyness. As a rule, in many cases, the problem is hidden in childhood. The reason could be the wrong word of a parent or relative. Often, the family, without knowing it, makes any serious comments that remain in our head throughout our lives. We remember this and constantly think that, having made a mistake, everyone will laugh at us.
It can also be associated with peers who, as a rule, are quite cruel in their judgments and statements. Often, children try to somehow self-actualize and therefore slander other, weaker or quieter children. This, too, creeps into my head for a long time.
The reasons can be completely different, so you should sit down and think carefully about everything, each person has his own story.
After the reason is found, you should proceed to action. First, you need to tune yourself to the fact that all people are egoists and think only of themselves, they do not care about you. You have your own life, they have their own. Therefore, if you want to speak out, go ahead and do not think that someone will judge you or start laughing.
If you are speaking in front of a large audience, you can be sure that not everyone is listening or some people are distracted and go about their business. Therefore, you can safely speak. Secondly, if you have long wanted to learn to sing or dance, the time has come. Sign up for classes and start practicing. Sport gives confidence, and during physical exertion, the body produces a hormone of happiness, which raises our mood. It is important to always walk with your back straight and look straight. You can't hunch over and it's best to work on your gait, she must be confident.
It is important to remember that shyness lurks only in our head. Therefore, only we can say goodbye to her.
