They say that the first impression is the most correct, but how true is this statement? How can you discern a person's character with barely one glance? However, psychologists note that often the first glance really allows you to feel something important about a person.
The case for a first impression
People form an opinion about a person based on their feelings from what they see. Numerous psychological studies have confirmed that this particular method is correct in the vast majority of cases.
When you evaluate a person, the first thing you do is test their personality intuitively. You analyze how it meets your own attitudes and "standards".
But how is it possible to understand something about a person in the first minutes or even seconds of communication? Oddly enough, the reason is that the other person evaluates you in the same way, and it is your reaction to each other that allows you both to form the right opinion.
It all happens like this. When you meet, you seem to exchange some signals, and some ancient parts of your brain decide whether you can show a little more openness to this person. If the decision is positive, this is always noticeable by micro-gestures and small changes in facial expressions. The other person does the same. This is a multi-step process in which you either admit that you like it, or something about it puts you on your guard, and you close. In this case, most likely, the person closes off from you too.
Exceptions are extremely rare indeed. If a person does not manage to adequately "exchange" mutual opinions about each other, this may even indicate some mental abnormalities.
No matter how highly organized beings people become, the conscious part of the brain is still just a tiny island in the ocean of unconscious processes. Most of the actions that your brain performs are impossible to capture with the help of thoughts. However, consciousness sets a vector that allows you to control some things. For example, you yourself can try to work on the impression you make.
How to make the best impression in the first minutes
It is known that people tend to sympathize with their own kind. Therefore, a similar style of clothing and some "identifying" signs, for example, the logos of some brands or bands, can do half the work for you. But if you're dating someone you don't know anything about, such as going for a job interview, then try the following steps.
Prepare your clothes very carefully. It should reflect the message that you are carrying. When you get a job as a manager in a large company, in no case should you allow yourself to be careless in your clothes. But if you are a representative of the creative profession, then the perfect business suit may even alert the interviewer. In any case, the clothes should be very neat.
Be open and smile. Do not cross your arms over your chest or cross your legs. Keep calm. Do not fiddle with your clothes, do not hesitate to look your interlocutor in the eye. The openness expressed by gestures always works for you. The main thing is that it should be natural. If you find it difficult and nervous, then it is better to behave a little more closed, but not tense.
