It is believed that a person driven by emotions is doomed to failure. After all, how can you achieve positive results in certain spheres of life, if at the slightest obstacle you want to destroy furniture, and as soon as there are insignificant prerequisites for improving the situation, a person is ready to love the whole world? Being held hostage to your emotions is a serious problem, so it can be helpful to know how to deal with your anger.
In a world where all objects and events around a person are completely annoying factors, stress cannot be avoided. Most often, a person's irritability is identified with anger.
Many people consider the ability to restrain anger to be akin to a gift, because not everyone can boast of this ability. If restraint and tolerance are not inherent in humans by nature, then it remains only to learn this on your own.
When it is clearly felt that anger is getting close enough and there is less and less adequacy in actions, you just need to ask yourself the question: "So what's wrong with that?" While a person begins to delve into himself, figuring out what is really so here, anger is already receding.
Taking 10 deep breaths is a must, both from an emotional point of view, and from a physiological one. In a stressful situation, the heart somewhat increases in size, while it begins to press on the diaphragm. With measured deep breaths, the situation is normalized, which significantly reduces the pain syndrome. No physical discomfort - no anger.
A side glance will help to quickly cope with anger. Needless to say, how anger disfigures even the most attractive appearance? Facial expression, distorted by anger, every spoken phrase, saturated with negativity, high intonations - all this negates previous efforts aimed at looking good. Perhaps it is worth pacifying anger at least for the sake of "not losing face" in the eyes of the environment?
Another point in the methods of dealing with anger is to try to express feelings only in a calm tone. Many people are excellent psychologists. But, unfortunately, some of them take advantage of this exclusively in their own interests. For example, to manipulate others with their abilities. In this case, you just need to stop and understand that you are being used for their own purposes - does this deserve an emotional breakdown and, as a result, feeling unwell?
You can write your anger on paper. Perhaps anger and irritation are the first emotions that were caused by this or that event, the first reaction to what was said or done. Sometimes it happens that the opponent is not to blame for the cause of the anger - the irritability can be caused by a reminder of a similar situation that happened in the past. In this case, in order not to offend a person (especially if what he said or did did not provide for malicious intent), you need to understand yourself: sit down and just write on the sheet everything that caused a negative reaction. It may well turn out that the reason lies precisely in some of the facts of your life path.
Anger is a destructive force. Therefore, it is very important not to let your emotions get the better of your common sense and not lose your composure. Knowing how to control your anger can make your life easier and reduce negative emotions!
