Anger is one of the most powerful negative human feelings, which is sometimes not only difficult, but also impossible to cope with. But angry behavior worsens relationships at work and in the family, and also negatively affects well-being. Therefore, it is very important to learn how to deal with your anger.
Instructions
Step 1
As soon as you feel that the feeling of anger captures you, stop for a moment, do not completely surrender to his tenacious paws. If you are at the peak of your emotions, count slowly to ten, and then do the breathing exercise. Breathe deeply and slowly, feeling the air fill and leave your lungs.
Step 2
But it is easier to stop the outbursts of anger before it has taken over you. As soon as you feel that your pulse began to quicken, the body breaks through a small tremor, and your mouth gradually dries up, and stop at this point. Do not boil, exhale. Do not let your negative feeling speed up, then it will be easier to cope with it. Breathe, trying to even out your heart rate.
Step 3
Tell yourself that you are angry. Driving away from yourself these thoughts, not admitting them, you only fall more into a dark abyss. Saying "I am calm" and boiling over with anger is not the best way to solve the problem.
Step 4
If you hear that nasty things are being said about you behind your back, of course, a wave of negativity will immediately begin to rise. To calm her down, leave the room. If you are in a situation where you cannot leave the room, visualize the door and yourself walking out of it. This will calm you down a bit and give yourself time to think things over.
Step 5
Analyze what triggers your feelings of anger. Who were the sources of your negative emotions: your boss, colleague, mom, friend, or yourself. What exactly did they do to make you angry? Or maybe initially you were mistaken somewhere? Try to trace in detail the entire chain of origin of negative feelings.
Step 6
Talk to the abuser or friend. You need to speak out to someone, while choosing your words carefully, controlling your emotions and not expressing accusations. Speak constructively and to the point, as non-judgmental as possible. After all, it is more important for you to resolve the situation, and not shower someone with accusations, which will further aggravate the situation.
Step 7
Physical activity has a beneficial effect on our body, saturates it with oxygen, muscles move, blood rushes to important areas, and as a result, a person's well-being is magically normalized. If you "boil", unable to calm down and, even more so, to conduct an adequate conversation, go out into the fresh air and walk a few blocks. You will feel relief in 10-15 minutes, as your negative energy will be directed in a positive direction - in movement.
