Jealousy is one of the most painful and most controversial feelings experienced by a person. With all the self-evidence of this phenomenon, psychologists find it difficult to give it a clear definition, and their patients often do not know how to cope with a seemingly meaningless but such an obsessive state.
Instructions
Step 1
Ushakov's dictionary interprets jealousy as "passionate distrust, painful doubt of someone's loyalty, love, complete devotion." So, almost always, jealousy goes hand in hand with love. Some romantically inclined natures even like to induce this state in a partner in order to make sure of the depth of his feelings. Other people do not need a reason - they are jealous in themselves, and the slightest reason is enough for an outbreak of anger. From here, the second bundle of jealousy is visible - with aggression, the desire to prove by force one's right to possess a beloved object.
Step 2
Delving deeper into the history of human passions, one can notice the connection between human feelings and the principles of animal psychology. In the animal kingdom, the concept of jealousy is practically absent - the female goes to the most powerful, dominant male. In a sense, if we close our eyes to the coarsening of terminology, this also applies to modern people: men and women during courtship seek to prove that they are good enough, worthy of their partner. But as soon as there is a reason to doubt this, then jealousy arises, a painful doubt as to whether he or she will find someone better for himself.
Step 3
If psychologists are not very good with a clear, academic definition of jealousy, then specialists in human souls can offer methods of "treatment" for this ailment. First, work on your self-esteem. It is easy to believe in yourself, that you are worthy of your beautiful other half, because once you have already won his or her favor. Return the elements of courtship to the relationship, then less time and mental strength will remain for suspicion and distrust.
Step 4
Secondly (and this logically follows from the first point), build relationships on trust. If your partner is deliberately flirting with other members of the opposite sex in order to make you jealous, be frank about how unpleasant you are. Perhaps the spouse did not mean anything bad at all, then it will be enough to stipulate the limits to which you can calmly look at his or her communication with other people.
Step 5
Third, redirect aggression. Yes, other people's attention to your other half is annoying. But on the other hand, the person others only dream of gave his heart to you. So make fun of your unlucky competitors, and to make it easier, beat the punching bag by imagining the face of an imaginary opponent.
