Self-confidence is an important component of a person's psychological health. It makes it possible to set goals and achieve them, develop, move forward. However, even mentally healthy people sometimes suffer from insecurity. To live in harmony with yourself, you need to constantly nourish your self-esteem.
Instructions
Step 1
One of the easiest ways to maintain confidence in yourself is to maintain a personal, positive mindset. Instead of blaming yourself for your mistakes and analyzing possible failures, it is better to spend your energy on achieving positive results. Remind yourself of your strengths to help you get the job done.
Step 2
Set achievable specific goals for yourself. Be realistic. If, for example, you are losing weight, you do not need to set yourself the task of losing 10 kilograms in 10 days. If you are studying a foreign language, do not promise yourself and those around you that they will speak it like their native language in a month. Break down big goals into many simple, doable steps. Check out the steps in the list and cross out the “passed”. So you will clearly see how day after day you go to the result. When setting goals, use the SMART scheme developed by D. Dourden for business processes, they work in the same way in everyday life. Make sure your goal is:
- specific (Specific);
- measurable (Measurable);
- achievable (Achievable);
- realistic (Relevant);
- timely (Timebound).
Step 3
Reward yourself. You, of course, consider it necessary to praise your children and loved ones, but sometimes you forget that you also need "positive reinforcement." When Americans hang diplomas and certificates on the walls, they do not so much boast of what they have achieved in front of others as remind themselves of what they have achieved, thereby strengthening their self-confidence. Arrange a "Board of Honor" at home and hang on it what makes you proud of yourself and your loved ones - letters of thanks from partners, certificates of children, photos from a successfully planned and spent vacation, greeting cards from those who appreciate and love you …
Step 4
Come up with your own positive mantras. Initially, this idea may seem ridiculous to you, but you have nothing to lose if you try. Tell yourself: "I am the smartest and most beautiful in the world." Let these words make you smile, but they will also fuel your self-confidence. When someone attacks you to lower your self-esteem, repeat to yourself what you think is important and valuable. For example: “I have a wonderful family, a loving husband (wife), wonderful children, a beautiful figure, flexible mind, friends and partners love and appreciate me and no screams and attacks can take this away from me”. Come up with phrases yourself that will remind you of who you are and what you have.
Step 5
Do not forget about the benefits of a healthy lifestyle, take care of yourself. A confident person looks well-groomed, he does not eat on the run, because he loves his body, and does not neglect physical exercise, because he understands the need for it. If you know that you are okay, you have clean tidy clothes, neat makeup, a healthy look, you are much more difficult to embarrass.
Step 6
Do not keep in your “inner circle” people who constantly make negative and pessimistic remarks about you. A friend who “wishes you only well” and does not get tired of reminding you of your failures, in fact, increases her own self-esteem at your expense. Your parents, who keep reminding you of your mistakes, try to make you dependent on themselves. Talk to them frankly, tell them how important their support is to you and ask what they want more - so that you sit around them all your life or become a successful independent person, never ceasing to love them and coming to their house for warmth and understanding?
