It often happens that serious setbacks unsettle us for a long time. What can you do in order to finally stop avoiding serious decisions?
After losing a job or the collapse of ambitious plans, for example, it is very difficult to return to an active life and, as if nothing had happened, just continue to live. You cannot find the strength in yourself for further struggle and at one point you simply give up, decide not to do anything so that it does not get worse.
Most likely, you think that going with the flow without shocks and unnecessary worries is not so bad. But over time, it becomes more and more difficult for you to do the most ordinary things, and now you no longer know who you are, where you are moving and why you live at all.
In fact, living in such a regime is very dangerous. When you fight, when you are proactive, you behave differently. Fortunately, it is possible to combat passivity.
- Try to understand what you are really afraid of. As a rule, some kind of fear is hidden behind indecision: fear of not living up to other people's expectations, of failing, etc. Observe what thoughts arise in situations where you refuse to make a decision over and over again. Finding the cause of your fear will make it easier for you to deal with it.
- Change your habits. The habit of avoiding responsible actions can literally "merge" with our everyday life. In order to get rid of this, try to be in public more and take responsibility for yourself. Start small: arrange to volunteer at an animal shelter, for example.
- Appreciate yourself. Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. Try to find a reason to praise yourself every day. Have you given up on the desired cake? You are a very strong-willed person. Have you got together and made a quarterly report in spite of your laziness? You are a very valuable worker.
- Don't be afraid to say no. You only have one life, and you have to live it first of all for yourself. You don't have to please others, so if you don't want to do something, just say no and don't feel guilty about it.
- Don't be afraid to take risks. It's about manageable risk, of course. Apathetic people often tend to underestimate themselves. By gradually expanding your comfort zone, you will begin to adequately assess your abilities.
- Plan and follow the plans. Typically, a sense of success provides a sense of contentment and self-esteem. And this is exactly what you need at the moment. Plan your goals and achieve them. Gradually, realizing that you are doing well will help you cope with your fear of decision making.
Remember that constant self-reflection and the feeling of your own worthlessness can disarm even the most talented person. Never give up so as not to let your life out of them.
