Are you not good at the conversational genre? You communicate with family and friends easily and with pleasure, but in an unfamiliar company you get lost? Do you have to study or work in a new team, and are you afraid that your shyness will not allow you to get along with fellow students or colleagues? Then these tips are for you.
To strike up a conversation with a stranger, you just need to follow the proposed scheme.
Instructions
Step 1
Catch the eye of the person you are interested in, smile, nod your head - this will replace a greeting. A smile should be light, simple, pleasant - non-binding. Practice in front of a mirror.
Step 2
Start the conversation with a simple phrase, neutral, not too personal, but designed from the very beginning to show your interest in this person, for example: “What are you drinking?”, “Do you also like the products of this company?”, “I thought I knew all my friends birthday girls …"
Step 3
Before touching on a specific topic in a conversation, it is appropriate to make a discreet compliment - unbroken and unobtrusive. It will have to be selected on the spot, depending on the situation, appearance and character of a particular person. It is indecent to make specific compliments about clothes and figure, but you can say: “You look so romantic in this outfit!”, “This tie suits you very much!”, “You have such an elegant (unusual) bracelet!”, “You are so charming smile!"
Step 4
Try to find common interests. Just a short but careful glance at the person you are talking to can provide many topics for conversation. By their appearance, one can judge whether a given person is wealthy, what his taste is, whether he goes in for sports, is relaxed or shy …
From the first words it is clear how smart and confident a person is. The person you are interested in may have a folder with documents, a laptop or an expensive phone in their hands. All these are reasons for starting a conversation, topics that will help you find common ground of interests.
Not found interesting for both topics? Go to general: discuss the latest events, news, the vagaries of the weather, new items in movies, music, books. But remember that discussions of religion, politics, crime and disasters should be avoided.
Step 5
After that, you can turn to more personal topics: work, hobbies, hobbies, personal car, travel. These topics will help you strike up a full-fledged conversation, and not just exchange a couple of phrases.
Step 6
Always have a few original questions in stock - they will help fill in the pause in the conversation or turn it into another direction. This can be a funny or hypothetical question, for example, "Where do you see the imperfection of humanity?"
