The most common negative emotions are fear, anger, and resentment. These feelings came to man from distant ancestors and used to serve for protection and safety. In the modern world, manifestations of emotional experiences often do not protect a person, but, on the contrary, destroy relationships and harm health. How to learn to overcome negative emotions?
Instructions
Step 1
If you are afraid of something, think about what exactly makes you feel in awe. After analyzing the situation, one can understand that it is only a matter of violent imagination. And then the fear goes away very quickly. Broadening your horizons helps you overcome this negative emotion.
Step 2
Sometimes, in order to get rid of fear, you need to meet it halfway. If you are afraid to call someone, speak in public, or give your opinion, then you should definitely do it. And then you will see that there is nothing wrong with that. Fear will stop bothering you as much as it used to.
Step 3
If you often experience anger, then by no means start suppressing it. This is a very destructive emotion. If directed into the body, it can cause illness and nervous breakdowns. You should also not give yourself free rein, causing damage to relationships and people around you. It is important to learn how to correctly express your feelings, without destruction.
Step 4
At first, you need to turn on mindfulness and start tracking those situations that annoy you. If it is still difficult to feel the anger that is building up inside, keep practicing. At first, you will realize that you were annoyed only after a while. With experience, observing your emotions and tracking them in the initial stages will be easier and easier.
Step 5
When irritation just appears inside, focus on it for yourself or the person with whom you communicate. At the moment, the emotion is not strong enough to ruin the relationship, and by talking about anger, you will change the situation and the attitude towards it. Do not accumulate negativity in yourself and do not wait for feelings to overwhelm you. If there is no way to express the feeling in words, implement it in a safe action: break the pencil, tear the paper, mold a man out of plasticine and crush him. Replacing the feeling with another emotion also helps. Realizing gratitude to a person or event for a life lesson can crowd out negativity.
Step 6
If you are prone to resentment, then know that this feeling is anger turned inward. For some reason, you forbid yourself to be annoyed with a certain person. Perhaps it is a relative or close friend. In releasing resentment, realize that you are doing the most harm to yourself, not to another person. And look for constructive ways to deal with the situation.
Step 7
You resent a person when they don't live up to expectations. But other people are not at all obligated to do as we want. They have their own opinion. If you look at the situation from their perspective, you can probably understand the train of thought. And the resentment will evaporate.
