The inability to make decisions quickly is inherent in weak-willed, weak-willed people who always doubt the correctness of their actions. Of course, some situations should be subjected to careful analysis, but the inability to take a decisive step leads, as a rule, to the most sad consequences.
Necessary
- - paper;
- - pen;
- - diary.
Instructions
Step 1
To learn to make quick decisions, imagine the end result of your actions or inaction and evaluate what is best for you. For example, say you are offered a promotion. Of course, this is a wonderful event, but you are worried about the increased responsibility, a different work schedule, etc.
Step 2
Take a piece of paper, divide it with a vertical line into two columns. In one, write down all the advantages that a new position gives you, in the other - all the disadvantages that you may encounter. Now you need to decide which of the scales outweighs: your perceived fears or your actual gains? After all, all that you are afraid of is just your predictions, they may not come true. But fear and prejudice may give you the opportunity to turn down a real opportunity to dramatically change your life for the better.
Step 3
Don't look for reasons for your inaction. You can always find them if you want, but will this help you develop as individuals and move on? The life of any person is arranged in such a way that every day he makes any decisions - from the smallest, everyday, to vital ones.
Step 4
In your actions, be guided by the motto: "He who does nothing does not make mistakes." Fearing a mistake that may not happen, you will miss out on the many opportunities life presents to you. Among billions of people, there is no such person who would not be wrong at least once.
Step 5
Set realistic goals for yourself and plan ways to achieve them. To do this, you can keep a diary and every day write down in it the steps that helped you get closer to solving the problem, as well as the circumstances that threw you back.
Step 6
Create your image of a successful person, stop being a victim of circumstances, take the reins of life into your own hands. Remember that only you are the master of your own destiny and have the right to decide what to do in this or that case. Increase your self-esteem, find a hobby, play sports, learn something new - this way you will have more reasons to be proud of yourself, and therefore - to trust your own opinion.
Step 7
Praise and reward yourself for every success, even the smallest one, try to feel the taste of victory, strive to experience it again and again. Cultivate a positive outlook: for this, read books aimed at success, watch films about strong people-winners, avoid discussions with melancholic who always doubt everything.
Step 8
Analyze those events from the past that you think may cause your self-doubt. You probably had some kind of setbacks, mistakes. Think about what useful experiences you can learn from them and turn this page of your life.
Step 9
If your fears about making decisions have gone too far and you cannot overcome them on your own, see an experienced therapist. By scheduling group or individual sessions, he can help you understand the causes of your fears and root them out.
Step 10
Remember that if all people were afraid to make decisions and perform some actions, the world would not see new discoveries and inventions, humanity would not know progress and would not move beyond the Stone Age. Therefore, do not be afraid of negative consequences - take risks, take concrete steps, and you will definitely succeed.
