Just chatting with a guy you know can be an overwhelming task, especially if you're a shy girl. I really want to make a good impression, but I’m so scared to say something wrong. In fact, if you are genuinely interested in the person and confident in yourself, you have nothing to worry about.
Necessary
- Sincere interest in the interlocutor
- Self-confidence
Instructions
Step 1
Relax. When you are nervous, you can start to speak very quickly, confusedly, or vice versa, slowly and carefully choosing your words. Thus, you will seem either too serious and focused, or very frivolous, but not who you really are.
Step 2
If you don't know where to start a conversation, ask questions about it. Ask about his favorite sport and the team he supports. Ask what books and films he likes, what kind of music he prefers. Find out which countries he has visited and where he dreams of going. Ask him about the family he grew up in, if he has any brothers or sisters. Find out if you have something in common.
Step 3
Ask his opinion on some issue in which he, as you understand, understands. Ask for help with a simple problem. Men love to feel important and useful.
Step 4
Show your genuine interest in the other person. Guys not only pay attention to what you say, but they also try to decipher the signals that you give them with your behavior. Nod when you listen to him, turn your whole body to him, but if he does not interest you in a romantic way, avoid "love" signals. Do not look into his eyes, pull on clothes, jewelry or hair, or touch his shoulder or arm.
Step 5
Avoid negative or controversial questions. Don't discuss family and relationship problems. You will be able to talk about it when and if you become close friends.
Step 6
Be positive. Nobody likes people who complain about everything, whether it's boys or girls.
Step 7
Remember that you are talking to a boy, not a girl. It seems quite obvious, but that's why we tend to forget about it. Less emotion, more rational topics. Wait for him to continue the thought if he paused in conversation. Guys tend to think over their answers, they don't tend to “twitter” the way your girlfriends do.
Step 8
Don't panic if the conversation goes wrong or doesn't work out at all. Everyone has bad days, their head is "full" with various problems, if you are not listened to and the conversation is not supported, this does not mean that you are a bad interlocutor.
Step 9
Know that it is important not only to start a conversation, but also to end it on time. Smile, tell me how pleasant it was to talk to him and say goodbye.
