It often happens that over a trifle, which in another case you can ignore and forget, a serious quarrel flares up. After a while, opponents are already throwing insults in the face, and dishes under their feet. Today the standard scenario looks like this - someone is sobbing exhaustedly, someone loudly slams the door, but both have bad feelings in their souls.
Instructions
Step 1
Never insult each other, even if the conversation has turned to any offensive topics. In order for the dispute to develop into a quarrel, sometimes one deliberate or accidental insult is enough. Even if your relationship is the topic of a serious conversation, try to focus on the problem itself, and not on the personality of your interlocutor.
Step 2
Speak and listen alternately.
This is a fairly simple and at the same time effective psychological technique. It consists in the fact that both parties in a quarrel must speak in turn. As soon as the simultaneous screaming stops, the conversation will turn to a lowered tone, and, in the end, turn into an ordinary conversation.
Step 3
Put water in your mouth.
There are people who can get started with half a turn, they are hot-tempered, but quick-witted. Paying attention to every phrase you say in the heat of the moment will make bickering become your usual communication. Therefore, quietly keeping quiet is the only and sure way by which you can avoid frequent quarrels.
Step 4
Stop signal.
If constant fights become a habit, try to come up with a special word with your opponent - a password that will instantly switch the topic of conversation. In practice, it looks like this: if you feel that a quarrel is brewing, say a special word, after which you and your opponent will be silent for a minute. Only then can you continue the quarrel, but, as a rule, there will be no continuation.
Step 5
Sex.
Sex is most likely the most effective way you can avoid an argument. You have probably noticed more than once that your loved one deliberately provokes a quarrel, because after her closeness becomes the most pleasant. Try to push your man to this yourself, and, perhaps, your initiative will be encouraged.
Step 6
Set up time measurements.
Try to agree that you can only fight during a certain period of time. Even if your resentment has not passed, it is impossible to talk about this topic in any case. If you can stand it at least once, next time you will already think about whether it is worth starting a new quarrel.
