We all experience negative emotions at times. This is a normal property of the human soul. No matter how we deny, we also experience anger. In our culture, it is not customary to be angry. Although simply forbidding yourself to be angry is unproductive and unhelpful for the psyche. Often, when we forbid ourselves to experience certain emotions, we get the opposite result - anger becomes even stronger. What to do to calm down?
It is a cardinal mistake to simply forbid oneself emotions and feelings, to block them. If feelings arose, then there was a reason for that. So to begin with, just allow yourself to experience the full range of feelings and emotions; admit your feelings to yourself. Verbalizing what you are experiencing already greatly reduces the degree of experience. Sometimes the phrase, "I'm wildly angry right now," has an amazing calming effect.
Always remember that there is a difference between emotions and actions under their influence. For example, it’s okay to be angry. But to start a fight because of this is no longer. After acknowledging your feelings, you must let off some steam. Any negative emotion needs physical release. Otherwise, you risk getting health problems. Emotions trapped inside lead, for example, to heart disease.
Therefore, look for an acceptable physical expression of anger: you may be tearing paper, breaking unnecessary dishes, or boxing after work. The first discharge of emotions is desirable directly while you are angry. Retire if those around you are embarrassing. It is also better to leave if the situation concerns a relationship with a small child: this way you will not scare him and avoid the opportunity to direct your anger at him. Scream, hit the pillow - do what your body asks for until you feel the anger is subsiding. Don't be afraid it will go on forever. Sooner or later, you will start to calm down.
Any sport is perfect for a delayed release of accumulated anger and irritation. Remember that anger is energy that accumulates in the muscles and needs to be spent in the direction you want.
Another great way to deal with your irritation and anger is with humor. Make a joke about the situation, laugh at it; you will immediately feel the anger dissipate. Humor is a purely human ability that has a tremendous psychotherapeutic effect. A person who knows how to treat everything with a healthy humor is much healthier mentally and protected than someone who always takes everything to heart.
The basic rule to tame the raging emotions: allow yourself to experience them and find your own way to physically express them, or find an opportunity to treat the situation with humor.
