We are all subject to self-criticism in one way or another. This is not a bad thing, since being dissatisfied with ourselves allows us to improve. But what if we criticize ourselves too harshly?
The inner critic is formed in the period of growing up, when the child is explained what is good and what is bad. Over time, we have formed concepts of morality, beauty, correctness. So the inner critic is a very serious part of our consciousness that does not allow us to act badly towards other people. Moreover, self-criticism can push us forward. It does not allow us to be satisfied with what has already been achieved, constantly demanding the best and the best result. But there are situations when internal criticism "brings", and now a person has a bunch of complexes with or without reason. Often the society is also to blame for this, poisoning a child from kindergarten, inspiring him that he is fat, terrible, stupid, talentless, and even worse - unnecessary. All this leaves its heavy imprint, which is sometimes very, very difficult to live with.
And sometimes it happens that everything in a person's life is going well, but he still cannot stop "pecking" himself. To avoid such extremes, you need to. Here are a few points to help you do this.
- Admit that there is still an inner critic. Many people deny its existence, justify it with rational reasons, for example: "I have a terrible nose, I see it in the mirror, and not just think so." You need to take courage and admit to yourself that the problem actually sits in your head, and it is the inner critic who whispers it.
- And your inner critic really wants the best for you. In fact, he cares about you, discouraging you from any reckless actions, for example, a spontaneous purchase or a sudden change of image.
- Learn to listen and hear yourself. This will help you avoid internal conflicts, as well as better understand your true motives and desires.
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Talk to your inner critic. Talk and consult with him, try to set up an internal dialogue so that during a conflict he does not scold and blame you, but supports and advises. In all situations, you can find your pluses, and your task is to "reconfigure" your critic so that he just demonstrates these pluses to you.
- Recognize that you will not be able to get rid of self-criticism completely. Just accept this fact and move on. But when such a moment of excessive self-criticism comes, you will experience it much easier, since you will know that it will not be long and soon this phase will pass.
