Does your child have his own family? It is important to build a good relationship with the new family member.
Many people are afraid of changes, but you should not think that your “baby” (son or daughter) will be taken away from you. No need to dramatize and cheat yourself - tune in to the positive and respect your child's choice. How the relationship with your son-in-law or daughter-in-law will develop depends largely on your actions, words and deeds.
Basic rules of communication
You should not be intrusive and deprive young people of personal space. Do you want to help children? Before doing anything, it is advisable to consult with them so that your help does not turn out to be a disservice.
The stories of your child's second half about his ex, especially in all the details, should become a taboo topic for you. This will be perceived as an act of aggression and a hint that instead of this person you see a completely different person with your child.
You should not be friends with your daughter-in-law or son-in-law (this can be perceived with hostility). The best solution is to become a wise mentor.
In a family, it is important to avoid scandals and resolve painful issues soundly and calmly. At the same time, you should not talk with your son-in-law or daughter-in-law in the absence of your daughter or son.
Do not try to teach your daughter-in-law or son-in-law: you can express your opinion if the young people want to consult with you. - You should not impose your own parenting style on the young (grandchildren are children with parents). Also, you should not make important decisions on your own - it is better to consult than to insist. Your child's spouse should become a loved one for you, if only because very soon he will become the parent of your grandchildren.
